Infidelity Support Group

God, I hope not. I'm gonna wait on other replies too.

Hope,
I am going to write on the topic of "whuy" they do it. I got some info and a website to refer to. Based on what it says? You decide.

Not always.One affair is a mistake.Were all human.two is a serial adulterer.I cheated once a long time ago and never did it again.

It may not always be inevitable that the cheater will cheat again...some people are genuinly sorry and will make every effort to not repeat it,,,others(from what I have seen) dont care about the pain they cause as long as they get what they want,,it is a personallity disorder and unless they get help,,they will surely do it again.

My husband did it three times...Why am even trying to work on my marriage, the one I didn't diss? I really deep down don't know. I say it's because I love him, then I ask myself how can you love someone that is so thoughtless? He swears he'll never cheat again, when I found out about his affairs 6 months ago, he realized what he was losing. He claims to be so worried he threw everything away. and he should be worried because HE DID !! I am giving him a chance, not a 2nd chance, a CHANCE. But even if he never cheats again or ever lies to me. He will always be a cheater he will have to live with that stereo-type label branded on him forever. That to me would be hard to live with...Good Luck

I cheated on my ex wife with 2 differnt people. one was a "one night stand" we were all drunk. I drove her home...big mistake.
The other lasted for about 2 months...nother mistake.
My ex-wife forgave me the first time. She worked on forgivin me the second time....Till she walked out...So...I didnt get passed 2.....

JB- Why did it have to get to 2? I suppose I just don't understand why some men need to make mistakes more than once in order to learn from them, assuming they ever learn from them at all.

I believe in second chances but when my husband took that chance for granted he crossed an invisible line in my heart and there just isn't any way to fix it at this point.

Now Im starting to thin that both cheaters and their victims should learn their lessons the first time around!

I think it's inevitable that most if not all will cheat again. Once they've done it the first time, it becomes easier. Once they've done it twice or even came close to twice, it's a certainty. And to make things worse they get better at hiding it too.

Your title is correct, once a cheater always a cheater. Just like most anything else people are branded with a stereotype and will never live it down.
But yes I feel that a person can change even drastically change their way of thinking and feeling. It usually takes a major confrontation or event in that persons life. For me it was having my wife find out about my affairs. I have changed many aspects of my life but I am still working on other parts that I need to change. Many I do not relaize until I am told or asked why didi I do that. Then I see the wrong and try to fix it for the next time.
This is the only thing I can do to reapir the damage that I have done to many people but most of all my wife.

I really think it's unfair to stereotype people like that. I believe it really depends on the person! For me, it's only been one time, and as God as my witness, I don't intend for it to EVER happen again!