Adultery is generally defined as consensual sexual intercourse by a married person with someone other than his or her lawful spouse. In many jurisdictions, an unmarried person who ...
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I have been with my husband for 15 years and we have 2 children together and 3 adopted and we got into a very heated arguement and had him removed from the house that night we got back together short we talked on the phone the next morning and i told him he had to make some real changes 2 days later he was home and i listened to his messages on the phone and found out that he had sleeping with this other women and he said it only happen one time cause he was mad at me he slept with her the next day after i put him out but when i heard the messages it did not sound like that to me she left him 12 messages in 6hours and she is the same woman a year ago that left me messages before saying she was sleeping with my man and he claims that was not true and she only said that because her brother and him got into a fight and she was mad at him for that and was making it up. now i think back and feel so stupid i cant proove it was more than one time because the ow said it was only once when i spoke to her on the phone and never said why she left those messages and now he tells me after i am trying to work it out but gave ultimatums not to hang around the whole family and not to call the number anymore but he did call at least once so far(waiting for the new bill to come in) and she left him a message at least once that i heard. so far and this is on his new number because he changed it to keep her from calling but then called and gave it to the brother and she called him on it so far.
Posted on 07/23/08, 02:07 am |
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Follow your gut instinct. Make sure your really want to know. Hopefully know beforehand what you plan to do with the information you get should it turn out to be the worst.
It may be that his putting the blame on you for sleeping with her the one time so he says is the first step cheaters try. The faithful old if you had not-- or if you had routine. Getting into an argument and spending the night somewhere else does not justify cheating on your spouse. 15 years is a big investment with children so you should ready carefully some of the things that are advised here on this site. The no contact rule is a good one to start with. That would include her her brother and whole family. He made the mess now he has to be willing to back away from it. Another thing you can expect is for a cheater to be a liar. I might consider thinking of something to say to her to make her stop calling. Contacting police or block her number. You will find helpful information on how to catch a cheater if you feel it is necessary. Steps to start healing and get past all of the stages you could go through. A cheating spouse begins a roller coaster ride that is hard to get off of. Hugs to you and wishing for you that the damage done is no more than he has admitted. 
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