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Short story, Husband left me in a physic hospital a month ago and then decided to leave me for a girl who meet last summer ( Lives in Russia .. here on a work release every summer ) She is 13 years younger then him.. she is 20 he is 33. He moved back to NY .. says its because the kids and I had to move back home to NY ( lived in VA for two years ) Lost Everything, because we were being evicted and I never knew it.. he hid things from me. Lied most of our marriage for 10 years and really had no ambition to want to try to make our lifes better ( Even though he said he did ) Well she is NOW living with him at his sister's house about 20 min from me. His myspace page say's he is Engaged and there are photos after photos of him and her together. He has lost weight.. does not come to see his Kids.. but tells them he will. He has no job except every once in a while and has not paid me child support except once of $100 on 4th of July.
I know he is an ASS but I can't seam to get over the hurt and betrayl that he has put me through. I know I deserve better then that.. But I can't get away from it all. Part of me wants to know what did I do so bad that he left me this way? Why is this girl more important then his family ? If she is ONLY here for the summer's why is this what he wants ? I don't get it.. I really don't. He has NOTHING to offer her.. and she still continues to be around him. I need advice on how to get over all this and if anyone else had experiance the same thing as me. ? Posted on 07/21/08, 11:07 am |
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(what does he have to offer her?) Ummm American citizenship?? Of course you are hurt and confused. The asshole abandoned his family and betrayed you. 10 years is a long investment and my heart ache for you. Its normal to question what you did or didn't do wrong. But try to remember that it is not about you. You did nothing wrong! Its about his self centered selfishness that has nothing to do with you. Take some comfort in knowing that more than likely this young 20 year old will prob dump on him as soon as she gets what she wants and she is a legal citizen. My brother though he too was in love with a girl from Russia and he married her then she dumped him as soon as she was a legal citizen. This is a common practice with girls wanted to move to here.Sounds like he is still (in the fog) and will have a rude awakening.{{HUGS}} 
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Thank You so much Johnna, it turns out that his CRAZY 20 Year old girlfriend had his password and changed all that info, he changed it back and there are no more photos of them too. She is trying very hard to keep us apart, as well as the kids. She is doing everything in her power to try to distroy what is left of my husband and the relationship with his kids. I think she must have it at the B****. I know she ONLY wants him for certain things, and I know she will leave him if he does not leave her first.... I mean I know he can only take so much, but she is also suppose to be going back home Sept 23rd.. and she is suppose to be here on a work release, BUT she is NOT even working!!!! How the hell did that happen ? How did she even get away with that shit ??
Another thing, he only calls when she is NOT around ... HELLLLOOOOOO. She can not marry him because he is still legally married to me and in the state of NY you have to be legally seperated through courts for a year before you can get divorced, so she is going to be waiting a long time and I think by then she will have found another PRIME MATE!! Again Thank you for your Advice ;)
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I agree with Johnna. She wants to be a citizen and to me that is a very valid reason. I know it hurts and we all deserve better from our cheating spouses. But in my opinion, if they are really truly sorry and sincere it does make it easier to forgive and get over the hurt. But if one is not trying and you're the only one trying to make it work, it's very hard to move on no matter how many reasons you come up with. The best advice I can give you is to maybe try to go to counseling. It really helps to talk to someone outside of your circle and vent your frustration and get professional advice. Daily Strength has also helped me cope with my situation and I have met fantastic people who have given me advice and support. I'm offering my support to you and if ever you need a friend to vent I am here to listen. :)
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I want to know that too. He never wants to talk anymore. He wants to shove it under the rug.
I am falling apart. Oh, yeah, she lives across the street with her whaite trash parents who are also drug addicts.
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