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I just found out 30 days ago that my husband of 32 years had a one time sexual encounter with a co-worker. She has continued to stalk him for the past 3 years. He changed jobs 3 months ago and had no more contact with her. She started leaving gifts at the end of our drive. A teddy bear, then beannie babies then a card and the last thing was a note to my husband.
I went crazy, he told me who it was. I got in my car and went to her house. My husband called her and told her I was on my way. Her husband met me in the drive with a shotgun and ordered me off the property. I waited on her after work and confronted her a week later. By this time my husband had confessed that he had the encounter over 3 years ago and it was a one time thing. She was shocked that he had told me but confirmed that it was a one time encounter. Not that it matters how many times. She has begged him to leave me. She has done everything to keep contact with him. Until I found out the truth. Her husband/boyfriend what ever he is, has had a drug problem in the past and is very unstable from what I am told. I hate her, I want to see her suffer and I want to tell the crazy husband. BUT, I am trying to work on my marriage. If I tell this man and he does something to my husband then I'm to blame. I want to beat the hell out of her for the hell she has put me in. I didn't asked to be put here they put me here. Everyday of my life I think about the hell I can cause her. I have mailed pictures of all the gifts and a copy of the note she left my husband. I have had no response from any of it. What next. Posted on 05/10/08, 09:05 pm |
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Sometimes you just have to let it go. Hating someone is not good for you and if it is over and he is sorry.. and you can forgive and forget.. then let him try again... If you cant then let him go because you are worth more than that.. 
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This sounds like the movie Fatal Attraction...Don't risk you or your family's safety, and keep records of everything. Have you or your husband considered a restraining order? 3 years...this nut-case is obsessed.
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sometimes letting go is the besy result because in the end if u still want your husband and marriage i would say let the past stay the past unless it starts to mess up your future
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God bless you. Letting go is the only way. He's back and if he's making positive attempts to repair the marriage, grab onto that and make it work. I am divorced after 33 years and it ain't pretty out there. My ex never stopped cheating once he started. I wish him well and I'm moving on. Let the crazy lady live with her own demons. You're better than that. I do understand your shock and pain, though. Be careful of that boyfriend...he sounds dangerous. Be well.
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I was going to recommend a restraining order as well. This woman sounds unstable. I agree with everyone who said to try to let go. It sounds like your husband is truly remorseful and is trying to steer clear of her.
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