Infertility Support Group

UGH! That's so frustrating to hear people say they know how you feel when they haven't got a clue. If you haven't been through IF treatments and experienced the pain and sadness then you just don't know. I am so sorry this didn't happen for you. I think people just don't know what to say sometimes and end up saying the wrong things. Hang in there.

People really just don't understand!

I am sorry. I am sorry the cycle did not work and I am sorry for the comments. I understand that at times people don't know what to say but I wish at those times they would say "I am sorry" or nothing at all.

I am so sorry. I can not believe...well I should...that people are so insensitive. I had a girlfriend who knew all about how hard it was for me...tell me how she got pregnant on the first time...and the proceeded to go into detail about the whole story. I also had my now SIL tell me about how she wasn't even supposed to get pregnant how she was on the pill. These people are just clueless and I have learned to just not really talk to them about anything anymore and if they say stuff like that to me I immediately change the subject.

Folks just really don't get it. I am sorry the last round didn't work out. So frustrating - all of it. Hang in there and rant here whenever you need to - WE get it!

I am sorry you are in my prayers I don't understand why people are so insensitive

Oh my gosh! I am so sorry for you! I hate it that people can be so insensitive! I would like to have them walk one month in our shoes and see how it REALLY feels!! I mean seriously I have had to deal with some really crazy sayings to from my "friends"! I just truely believe that people can be dumb when it comes to this situation! Hang in there and I hope things brighten up for you soon!!

I am really sorry. That is why I did not tell work when I did IVF - only my boss. That way you avoid all the stupid things people say. I did tell my mom who although supportive, told me to relax. Yup, that is sure to make my DH's morphology increase!

I don't think people are meaning to be insensitive. i think most of the time they don't know what to say. people are constantly telling me it will happen when it's meant to be and of course i want to scream at them but my husband reminded me last night that basically we are grieving for what we can't have (YET) and that a lot of people are comfortable with other people's grief. sp they really don't know what to say or do.

Makes you want to jump on their neck with a pogo stick doesn't it?? This is precisely why I do not tell anybody anything. I have two sisters, both older than me (I'm 37). My oldest sister has 3 children, all without trying. My middle sister did IVF 2 times and neither worked. I told the sister who went through IF and IVF that I was going through it, and her response was "good deal, hope it works". What?? I thought I'd get a bit more support from her, but she's got the sensitivity and compassion of a rattlesnake. I should have known better. Then in a weak (very weak) moment, I told my oldest sister (the one with 3 kids) about it. Her response was to deliver pity (which I don't need or want). She said she just doesn't know why her sisters are having this problem, boo hoo hoo. Oh shut the F up. Then she says, are you ready..... "I know what you're going through". What? How? When I asked her how she could possibly know with 3 children of her own, she said "because I was there every step of the way when Julie was going through it". Omigod! If she didn't live 200 miles away from me, I would have thrown her down and stomped on her trachea! OK, I sound a little violent, but I'm not. Just trying to add some warped humor. The moral of the story, just don't tell anybody who has not gone through it. Tell us, that's why we're here!