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OT-But Important Adoption Question
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I hope not to offend anyone by posting this here in Infertility.
I have been to the Adoption Support Group a few times as my DH and I are beginning to consider it if we decide to move away from IF treatments. I love the IF support group, it has been so helpful and supportive, but I find the Adoption group a little different. And I think it might be because there are conflicting interests there. On one hand there are individuals like you and me going through IF and looking to adoption as a way to have a family. On the other hand there are individuals who are adopted themselves and are looking for a support group to discuss specific issues that arise from that experience. Now in a perfect world these two groups could help one another, but so far most of what I see out there is more geared towards adoptees and those who do post and inquire about adoptions seem to walk on eggshells worrying about saying something unintentionally inappropriate. Has anyone else found this to be the case? Is there a way to create two groups in order to facilitate an open environment for both parties? I'd appreciate any help with this as I want to find the same kind of support I have here on IF. Also, perhaps I could just start a group within IF for adoption, if there is interest. Again, I do not want to cause any conflict and I do not mean any offense. I am just looking for support in this very difficult process of starting a family. Thanks! :) Posted on 06/19/08, 03:06 pm |
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I think it's a great idea to have an adoption support group linked to the IF group. It is good to hear that other people are thinking similar things as I am definitely looking into adoption too adn there is so much to be discussed about that. I do think adoption after IF is a whole speperate issue and it would be nice to have the support of people who have been trhough similar experiences before getting to the point of adopting.
We haven't even started treatments yet but I need a plan B for my own sanity. 
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I started with DS in the IF group. It was wonderful and when the treatments didn't work, I started to look at the adoption group. I was floored by the difference and I had to stop looking becasue it was scarying me away from the adoption process. I'm not trying to say that it is a bad group to join. I just don't find it a great place for people moving on from IF and who are contemplating adoption.
After a few months away from the IF group - I came back. The people on this site are amazing and I still relate to everyone. I think its only natural for those of us who went through IF together, should stay together with adoption. I would definitely join an adoption after IF group. My DH and I are almost through the adoption homestudy and I have enjoyed the experience so far. I can't wait to get my kids. Good luck trying to create the group. I know I'll be a member.
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I think that starting a specific group for adoption after IF is a GREAT idea!! We are considering adoption as well, since there is no guarantee that I will get pregnant (with help or without...you just never know). I would definitely join, because I have so many questions, and there is so much I don't know!
I think that the suggestion of contacting Doug is also a good idea. He will more than likely be able to help you figure out what to do, and if a "pregnancy after IF" group can be started, rather than putting us all in the same boat, then I don't see why they wouldn't be willing to start one for this as well!! Good luck, and let me know if there is anything I can do to help you. Also, please let us know what you come up with!! I'm excited to see what will come of this.
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Hello All! I just wanted to let those of you watching this post that I just created a group within IF called Prospective Adoptive Parents. Please share with others who may be interested as I decided for now to leave it off the main groups listing. It is also open to those who have already adopted and are willing to offer advice and support. Thanks! Hugs to all!
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I can't find the group.... please let me know where to go, I'd love to join!
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Sorry for any confusion on finding the location of the group. I made it a private group and in order to change it I'll need to contact the DS Team.
In the meantime, see if this works http://dailystrength.org/groups/pr... Or go to my profile and click on my groups.
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