Heroin Addiction & Recovery Support Group

I know how you are feeling you want to do the right thing but you dont know what it is!! there isnt much you can do untll he wants to stop its just a waiting game for you untill he disides what he wants an its just up to you to stay strong for you and your kids and deside if you want to wait for him or not! good luck!

addiction is an illness the same as cancer. YOU CAN"T DO ANYTHING to make the person change or stop. They must do that with the help of their Higher power. Unfortunatley it is a illness or relapse. They relapse sometime many times before they get it right. Sometimes they never get it right. You ned to make choices for yourself and your life. Remember it only gets worse if they do not want to stop. Its a pregressive illness. I wish you much luck and suggest you go to naranone or alanone meetings they do help.

i had no idea my fiance was using and it kills me now. we have a son and i don't know what to do either. he has lied to me about everything and it does hurt. sometimes i get so worried that i get sick. i feel that i want to hold onto us, but he has to make the change. unfortunetly no matter what you say you can't just hit a switch in his head and think he will get better. it will hurt to wonder what hes doin, or were he is. but at the same time it may be easier to leave and not have the worry.

my boyfriend is addicted to heroine as well. right now he is detoxing at his dad's house, and i'm not allowed to be there until the detox is done. i can really relate to you on so many different levels though.

really, there is no way to help him realize that heroine is ruining his life, and yours. i know that is a horrible thing to hear... trust me, i know because that's all i've been hearing from everyone. the only thing you can really do is love him... and either let him know that you are going to be there for him... or that you will leave him if he doesn't stop. keep in mind that when you talk to him about his usage... you are dealing with an addict. and addiction is a disease. he needs to get into some sort of inpatient rebhab place, but in order to do that, he has to be sick of doing heroine. he has to go there because he wants to... not because you want him to. and i know how bad it hurts to hear that. maybe try going to some NA meetings with him... or therapy or something. get to the root of the problem: why did he start using heroine? once you figure that out, you can start from there. just remember that an addiction is something you deal with for the rest of your life. and it's hard, not only for the addict, but for the loved ones as well.

something that i read in an NA book, has helped me through what i'm going through with my boyfriend. it's meant for addicts, but it helps for all sorts of problems. try making a list of "Just For Today" tasks. for example...
JUST FOR TODAY i'm going to try to find a way to help my boyfriend, instead of dwelling on the fact that he won't quit.
JUST FOR TODAY i'm going to focus on me and my kids and the well-being for my family.
JUST FOR TODAY i'm not going to cry or be upset over his addiction.
JUST FOR TODAY i will put this problem in God's hands.
JUST FOR TODAY everything will be okay.

the reason behind the "Just For Today" tasks is that you set a daily goal and you stick by it. if you think about never crying or being upset over his addiction for the rest of your life... it will be too overwhelming. so you start off small... and tell yourself that maybe tomorrow you will worry about it and bother him about it... but Just For Today... you won't. it really helps you heal and get stronger inside so that you will be healthy enough emotionally to help him overcome this. just make up a list of Just For Today tasks and recite them to yourself every single day. make sure to tell yourself that this is just for today... maybe not tomorrow... but just for today. you can also introduce your boyfriend to the Just For Today idea and if he decides he wants to quit... then have him make up his own list. he can say things like...

JUST FOR TODAY i will be drug-free.
JUST FOR TODAY i will focus on getting better for my family.
JUST FOR TODAY i will have a drug-free program and i will do everything in my power to not use.
JUST FOR TODAY i will go to NA meetings and talk to other people who are battling the same thing i am.
JUST FOR TODAY i will be unafraid of being sober.
JUST FOR TODAY i will set an example for my kids and i won't use drugs.
JUST FOR TODAY i will believe that i do not need drugs to survive.

It really helps a lot.
good luck with everything!


sorry i wrote so much... but i'd rather write too much... than not enough.


*amber*

Hi, I am a recovering addict myself and I have a year and a half clean. I know from experience that unfortunatly you cannot help him no matter how hard you try. This probably hurts you like crazy. The best thing you can do is to let him go and try to live your life. This might give him a push to realize he has a problem. There are support groups you can join to help you deal with this. Its frustrating, it hurts and its so confuseing, I know, I wish you the best of luck and same with him. Dont give up on yourself and believe me its not at all your fault, none of it. Stay strong and do whats best for you.