Healthy Sex Support Group

My partner is going through menopause (she is 51) and I am wondering about a few things:

We have been together for 3+ years and when we first started, we were having sex almost every day. My libedo is high, but she matched or topped it. Now, we go a week to almost two months between long sessions (an hour or longer) and once or twice a week for a 10 minute (her choice, not mine). She tells me I am a great lover, and her experience is close to a hundred men.

Question: For those of you over 50, what is the frequency and duration of your love-making?

I have asked two close male friends, one in his late 40s and the other in his 60s, the first has sex one or more times a day and the 2nd had sex 2-3 times a week.

Question: She seems to be satisfied with short sessions whereas I want to make it a production lasting a couple hours. This seems to be the reverse of what I used to think were male vs. female attitudes. Is this true still?

Question: I love oral sex and when we first met she literally told me "Halleluyah! I found a man who likes to camp out." She has told me that I am the best. But now its been over two months and she is just as likely to stop me as to let me continue to give her an orgasm. Is this menopause or should I be worried about other things?

We get along fabulous in other areas, but the sex used to be our "99%" compatibility and now it is changing and its driving me nuts because my drive hasn't diminished. Is this all due to menopause?

I would really like to hear from other men over 50 having gone through the experience. However, I welcome opinions from woman over 50 who can tell me what's going on from their point of view.

Thank You.
Posted on 10/23/07, 10:10 am