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I think it may just be that with having a new baby all the stress and being tried. I was like that after the birth of our DD things did get back to normal. Like you said he could just be afaird of you getting pregnant again I mean look at the people from there country they "pop" out kids once a year and he could just be worried I know it is hard but give him time and talk to him but I am sure things will go back to normal. God~Bless!

Was he in the delivery room with you? My husband said that as he watched the birth of our daughter it was amazing but then the first time we started fooling around afterwards he had flashbacks of how large my vaJJ got, the blood, the after birth, the needle and he couldn't preform. I say give him a little more time and try to have a calm understanding talk with him. If he feels pressured from you then you won't get anywhere.

He could be in shock at being a dad. He could be worried about hurting you with sex. He could even have sympathetic post natal depression.
I know loads of men feel a bit wierd when their partner get pregnant/has a baby. He may even be having a bit of a sulk coz he no longer gets 100% of your attention now.
Try not to worry too babe. You could try ignoring his odd behaviour and see how that works?

Give him time. Becoming a parent takes a lot, so does thinking of your spouse as a parent in addition to that of wife and lover. When your little one is old enough to leave with family, get away for a weekend. (Even if you're breast feeding, you can freeze the milk). Don't even bring a pump with you. Let him help rid you of that excess milk! But use the opportunity to get away and rekindle things.

As to the weight gain, that's a tough one. Yes, your hubby should love you unconditionally, but the pragmatic truth is that we men are wired to be visual creatures. That doesn't mean he's going to stray just because he sees an attractive, young woman. Just that his wiring is such that his eyes tell his brain that there is something walking down the street to check out. Sorry for that. I'm on my way to the gym right now because my gf suggested I'm getting some sag on my butt. For me, that's not an option. Its tough enough being 55 without thinking about my ass falling into my shoes. Even if you just start working out, your hubby will see it as a sign and will respond to it. That's my belief anyway. Good luck!

Awww hon, I am sorry you are going through this right now. Maybe it is just having the new baby around. He could just be exhausted. If you spoke to him about it, that is all you can really do. Be sure you look nice when he gets home, hair, nails, make-up and HOPEFULLY he will perk up some. All the best!!

I doubt your weight gain has anything to do with it. Having a new baby is stressful and tiring for him too. Give it time. It's only been a few month. If you can afford it, go out to a nice dinner together if you can leave the baby with a relative or someone and get some romance into the mix. Or maybe a nice romantic dinner at home.

No, I don't think you are overreacting. Women notice these things. Honey, I could have written that word for word after my previous pregnancies. It was the EXACT same way for me. And I am so sorry. I know it hurts. I think alot of it for me was that he was afraid we'd get prego again. You don't know alot of my story, but we have 4, he had a vasectomy, then we got prego with twins. And none were planned. It just was like one time w/o the condom and BOOM! I was prego. That might be part of it. Hell, he may not even know what is going on with him, thats why he says hes not acting differently. Most guys are not in touch with their feelings like women are. They stuff them. That may be why. I would just try a good honest talk. And make sure he knows.... whether he thinks he is acting differently or not, that you notice it and that is YOUR reality. He can't take that away. I would think of things to ask him to do to help you get where ya'll need to be. I'm here if you ever need to talk!

thanks for all of your replies.I really appreciate them.I want to know whats going on and I know that men hide their feelings more than women.I just hope and pray that he hasnt lost interest in me.Hopefully its just my imagination and crazy hormones..Thanks again..

Don't just dismiss it sweetie. If its important to you, then don't dismiss it. Try and figure it out with him. Or it will eat and you and never go away. Trust me on this one.