Healthy Relationships Support Group

I am sorry that he lied to you or decieved you. I don't think thats right to do to anyone at any age. Le me assure you that all men are NOT like that although I'm sure there are quite a few out there. Don't let that discourage you from dating and having a great time. There are many good men out there too.

LOL I had the same thing happen to me a few weeks ago and my thoughts were exactly yours, if they're not interested then just be honest. I was kind of upset cause this happened as soon as I got back from my 3 years of no dating. But on the other hand I've been guilty of never calling back or returning messages when I was younger. There is always the thought of maybe something came up or he's been busy.... but more than likely thats never the case lol. Sometimes people's theory of closure is to just disappear, for whatever reasons, I guess its a immature way of expressing they're not interested without having to come out and say it. I could even go so far as to say some people cut off all contact in an attempt to not hurt you, its a feeling of "It will be easy to move and forget about me", they don't realize that they actually end up hurting the person they are trying not to. You win some, you lose some right? Just don't let this bad experience ruin your new ambition to start dating again. While being hurt or rejected is always a possibility in dating its still exciting and in time you'll find someone amazing. Best of luck :)

Have had this happened to me a few times. In fact, have yet to make it to a 2nd date with anyone. Usually its me, just not being interested. Sometimes I tell them, sometimes I dont. But I never ever give them hope of a 2nd date if I am not interested. I either say no thanks or I say Dunno and be very vague so now when a guy does that to me (as in recently) I know he is not that interested and move on.

Because they're scared scared SCARED-I-CATS; they're chicken-shit!!! Don't want to deal with the unpleasantness and drama. Or they got cold feet. Either way, they avoid talking about their feelings, because it's unpleasant. They're chicken-shit.

Thanks for telling me about your experiences and the support. It all helps me feel a little better about what happened. I appreciate the feedback.

thats so common.... if something like that deters you, then you really arent ready.

Dating is not for the faint of heart. Be prepared for seeming acceptance, then rejection, then flippid remarks, emotions all over the map. Try to find someone "even-mooded", although it's impossible to BE in a good mood when you deal with all the bullshit, I know. Scrape yourself off the pavement and keep talking with others. Eventually you'll find a diamond in the compost heap.

Koolman you have hit the nail on the head. Chicken shit is right. Last month I was making arrangement to have a 2nd date with this guy. I spoke to him at about 4pm and we were to meet around 6pm. Everything was great on the phone, joking and laughing, never heard from him again. I sent a txt "are you okay?" and no response. He was a naval seal (P@#$$Y...thats right)but didn't have the balls to tell me he wasn't interested. On the bright side, at least he showed me his chicken shit attitude before we went any further.

Yeah, guys are pretty weird at times. They think that by hiding and dissapearing, everything go away. They act as if they're 5 years old who's seeing a ghost in their room for the first time. They get afraid and stick their heads under the covers. If they can't see the ghost, the ghost won't be able to see them. Dorks!

Well at least now you know how this guy is = COWARD! This happened to me before, but this happened after 3 months of dating. LOL! It wasn't funny at the time, but it is now. =)

Don't give up because of one loser! Just learn from this and have fun...don't expect anything and you will never be dissapointed!

This is an interesting topic. I am pretty new to dating too and have had the same experience. One of my male friends told me about his 3 contact rule. If he tries to contact you 3 times either by phone or text and you dont respond. He's finished. He deletes the number and moves on. I started that rule myself. It might not be right, but at least it helps me from getting my hopes up.

As far as not calling people back, it is hard to tell someone your not interested. I have a friend who is like 25 and I am 40. He calls and I dont call him back. He worries me. Maybe I should stop being a chicken and tell him I am not interested. I surely dont want to hurt anyone like I have been hurt in the past.