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Ok, I have a dilema. First of all.....I am so in love with my boyfriend it's not even funny!!! I don't think he would ever do anything to hurt me. We plan on eventually getting married one day. Here is the problem. We both have a church that we really like. He is very conservative Lutheran, and I am contempory Christrian. Our churches could not be more different. My church has a live band, we sing popular Christian songs and it's very casual. I hated going to church before I found this church. I actually enjoy going now. I never went to church when down where I used to live....but when I would come home for visits I would always go to church. My boyfriend's church is very strict....you wear your Sunday best, sing old bible hymns.....all the stuff that made church boring for me. We know this is an obstacle for us, but we also know we can get through anything.
Does anyone have any advice or input on this????? Posted on 07/22/08, 09:07 pm |
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There's no real reason why this can't be just one of the many differences you'll have as individuals in a relationship. This relationship *can* work as long as neither of you forces your will upon the other. You both have the right to worship as you please. You could switch off churches from week to week, or you can each go to your own church and then come back & discuss what you learned there... thus gaining the benefits of two services/sermons. :)
I've known many who are in interfaith relationships. *I'm* in one, myself. I'm Pagan and my husband's Christian. We've been together for ten years now. :) Anything can work if you set your mind to it. You don't say much about how your B/F feels. Could you explain his feelings a little? Is this a "deal breaker" for him or what? 
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Thank you so much everyone for all of your input!! I appreciate it more than you can ever know!! I know that this is something we will be able to work out. We can just both be kind of stubborns at times!! :)
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We have discussed this breifly. He actually has not gone to church for several weeks because they don't have an active pastor right now. He also says that we can work through anything. He says that he is open trying out my church and he wants me to try his church with him.....which I am totally willing to do.
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I think alternating between the two churches sounds like a great idea.
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Honestly, if your guy doesnt want to go to where your comfortable to worship, like it makes him uncomfortable then you guys can go to your own churchs. Its not a bad thing, my guy was extremely conservative too and im pentacostle background. And hes come around to actually love my church now, which is awesome. But before we just didnt do church together because it just didnt work.
But we still loved each other, and still worked it all out. You can too! Dont worry to much.:)
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I see that your religion is important to you and I give you respect for that.If you are considering marriage then you would want to definately get this settled first.I dont believe it is good to marry someone who will not be your spiritual soulmate because it will take from the unity of the marriage.It is awesome that you both have agreed to try eachothers church preference, you all will work through this and once you find the solution it will make your relationship all that much stronger. God Bless you both
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when my cousin got married to her huby they had out door wedding and they ad someone from herchurch and someone from his... nd both people said a bit from their church and thy both preformed the wedding. Now she is Calti and he is Jewis so if they can do it so can you
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take turns...
if all else fails you dont have to go to church together compromise
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