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I think different people just have different expectations about communication. I know in my relationship I am almost always the person who makes the call. For a little while it worried me but after talking it out with my BF I came to realize that he just is disinclined from talking on the phone - period. He also just got used to me calling and figured if I didn't call, then I didn't feel like talking. They were just roles we fell into. I am still usually the one who calls, but because we have more of an understanding about that, it doesn't cause either of us much anxiety.

Don't know if this is useful, but it hopefully adds and alternate perspective.

I think if I had a boyfriend like that then I wouldn't call him for a few days or even a week and see if he responds. Communication is a two way street and if you are only dating at this point then I'd be very worried as to how good of a relationship you could ever have if he can't even take the initiative to call you.

He could also be very controlling and has control over you and likes having you call him all the time. I had a boyfriend that was like that once.

hey.. wow we are twins haha.. i try and let my boyfriend call me but i end up doing all the calling.. i dont think they forget but they are so use to us making all the phone calls.. hes getting better.. i find when he goes to his mother's (who i like alot) he ignores me for awhile.. but yes communcation is key

Different people have different needs, You may need to talk to him more than he feels he needs to talk to you. My husband and I are that way. He calls more frequently when one of us is out of town. Other than that I do most of the calling. No worries.

I agree with everyone saying it depends on the relationship.
Early on, I had to do most of the calling but now my boyfriend calls me 95% of the time because we both have crazy schedules.

Otherwise when I call, there's always a purpose. I don't call him just to gossip or tell him useless information, it's usually a reminder of plans, or asking what's going on.

Have you tried texting him or emailing him just saying "Hope you're having a good day." or something along those lines?

You'll find that's often reciprocated. :)

Thanks for all the advice. I have tried emailing but most times he doesnt reply not sure why, never asked him. I guess if i feel the need to talk to him then it is up to me to call. Sometimes i get stuck on the silliest ideas. Oh well i still love him even if he doesnt call like i think he should.

this one is a bit difficult for me, as my bf is bipolar, he goes through stages where he will call me pretty much everyday, to me trying to ring him and getting no answer, and him then maybe calling back.
but mostly, he calls me, have told him i have no problem calling him, but he likes to call me.

Some people are just that way. In my experience guys are more likely to be like that. Having said that, I myself am VERY much that way. I usually wait til a person has called me 3-4 times, left a voicemail or two, sent a text message or two, and then MAYBE I'll call you back if I'm feeling chatty ... and if you're lucky. ;)

As long as SOMEBODY calls SOMEBODY, for cryin' out loud-!