Healthy Relationships Support Group

I had naked pics of other chicks that I knew.

Some were of an ex.

I never cheated on my girlfriend though.

That's just me though I guess.

how were you able to see the pics on his computer ?

figured out his passwords... ;)

glad I read this whole thing befre replying. you had some reason not to trust him, then you snooped on his pc, found pics then asked him about them and he's willing to stay with you after all that?
I suppose should be the other way around, him forgiving you for snooping?
and for what its worth, could be true that he's being honest about the age of the photos and who took them, but clearly if he still has them, then there's something he's not getting in your relationship.
you never said he was cheating but something made you distrust him to seek out his passwords.
also, you can "forgive" him for having the pics but you cannot forget anything. if ou choose to forget, then you're simply trying hard to brush things under the rug.
think long and hard about all this and seperate from the pics think why you went looking in the first place.

I had some things that made me distrust my wife--subtle little things at first. Then, I, too went "exploring." (in my case, I'm a computer programmer so getting past the limited security of a non-computer person's laptop was a no-brainer). Unfortunately, I found what I was suspicious of. Honestly, I was hoping to find evidence that would prove that my suspicions were WRONG. Even after that and confronting her, she talked me into giving her another chance and all of that stuff....

Fast forward a year and a half later.... She's 6 months pregnant with her boyfriend's child and we are getting a divorce. Strangely enough, we have remained close friends, and we have discussed things like my "exploring" through her stuff. Her take on it is as follows: I was only looking because I was suspicious. And, I was 1000% correct. She feels that I had every right to do the things I did because she was the one who was wrong.

The moral of the story: trust your gut feelings, but be absolutely sure before making accusations. If that means you need to conduct some "research" then do so. If your suspicions are wrong, your research may actually save your relationship!

Oh, and another thing: cheaters almost never get caught if their SO is completely happy with their relationship because they don't have any need to question things or be more observant.

So, saying this, ask yourself: are you totally happy with your relationship or is there that little "something" that appears to be wrong?

In my experience, once a cheater always a cheater.

i found pics...
i couldn't deal because of the fact it happened when my gpa died...
said it was from a long time ago but he lied...check the dates...

i really dont think the pictures or what he did is the issue here at all. your relationship is actually in ruins whether you understand that or not.
trust is a fundamental necessity for a relationship. lack of communication or misscommunication is usually the first problem and is probably part of yours. this relationship needs honesty from both of you. these problems can be resolved but it takes work and patience and mature behavior.
here are some candid observances. my relationship has no passwords or boundries. my wallet computer files and phone texts are all open to my gf's inspection 24/7. she knows where i go and what i do and who i talk with and what we talk about. most of my relationships are with women. we have no jealousy problems somtimes we run into trust issues and we talk about them together. i want her to know what i am doing so she can be secure with our relationship and with my behaviors.
my opinion...your relationship might be worth saving if both of you are willing to change your behaviors. if he needs passwords, you should probably move on because whatever efforts you put into this will probably only turn into pain. trust your gut. but then remember to ask yourself, am i doing things i dont want him to knwo about. if your answer is no, discuss how you feel about all of this with him. when trust is violated it takes alot of work to get it back. somtimes it never comes back. i hope this helps you, if not please ignore this post.