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My Mothers Day was anything but good. Saturday morning I asked my husband if he wanted to go out that night and he said yes. In the later afternoon he told me he was going to visit his mother (which is another story I wrote on this board not to long ago) and I reminded him of our plans. He said "I know it's not night time yet". He changed his clothes and I knew he was up to something. When he was leaving around 5:30 he told me he would call me and for me not to come home late (I was going to go out with the baby) because he wanted to go to the show. Around 9:00 I still haven't heard from him and I was getting upset. I drove by his friends house around 9:30 and there was the car. He was supposed to be at his mothers. I was so mad and hurt. I tried to call him many times after I got back and he wouldn't answer the phone. At 12:00 am I went back there and the window was opened so I called for him to come down. He goes "Hi Babe". I reminded him we had plans tonight and he goes "So, whats wrong?" His friends came down and they were actually headed to another house for more drinking (he was already drunk). I walked back ot my car and started crying. His friend came up to me and said I'm sorry. I told him there was no reason for him to say that. I told him how we had plans tonight. Then his friend says "I take care of him". I said what are you saying he's going back out? He said " we are going back to my place to drink some more. He left then my husband came to the car and I we arguing. He was mad at me for going there and when I told him I called many times he says " I'm not a slave to my phone". I told him I was home waiting for him for us to go out. Then he starts yelling at me and his friends pull up in the car and I asked him are you going leave with them knowing how hurt I am and crying. He yells "Do you want me to go home? For what to watch you sleep?" He went to the friends car for a few then walked to his car and drove home fast.I was nerous because the car is reg. to me and he was intoxicated. Last month when he hung with them they let him drove home drunk and he caused over $11,000 in damage to his car. I am so glad that I went there because he was drunk at 12:00 what would have happened if he were to continue drinking all nihgt and drove my car home?

When we arrived home it didn't get any better. The things he said to me were "I didn't sign any papers saying we were going out", "I said I would like to go to the movies, I didn't say we were going", "So what I lied" and "you're a b@!ch" he then kicked my box of candles and went to bed. I called my friend and was crying. The pain I felt was so intense. I couldn't beleive he would do that to me.

In the morning he woke up and put his arm around me and I told him not to touch me. He said he said those things because he was mad. He lied to me he knew he wasn't going to his mothers house and he's mad at me. I told him I can't believe anything that he says and I have hate towards him and he say "no, you love me". Again I tell him I have hate towards him and he's trying to tell me I don't. He went back to sleep and didn't get up until 3:00. He took a shower and left to go play soccer. He text me several times saying " I love you don't matter what", U r in my heart believe or not", "U can think what u want but I know whwat I feel". His last text was asking me if I wanted to go to the movies tonight. Of course I didn't go. He left a little while ago and came back with 2 movies and Mc D's for himself. I left the livingroom and came to write this. I don't know how to deal with this hurt and anger I have. I didn't get a card or a Happy Mother's Day. For my breakfast I went to the drive through at McD's. How can a man say he loves his wife and turn around and act in such a cruel way.
Posted on 05/11/08, 11:05 pm