Healthy Relationships Support Group

I would think that first they would have to see it and admit they were doing it to even start to change it...as for can they?? don't know, never have stuck around long enough to find out!

People are verbally abusive because of their own insecurities. They think knocking you down makes them look bigger.

I'm with kidsintowe. I never stuck around long enough to find out if they can change or not. It wasn't worth it to me. The damage was done.

I believe everyone can change...usually not for the better.

If he accepts what he is doing and agrees to get help, then sure, he could change. If you are talking about someone who never admits when he is wrong, he is most likely not going to agree with you...and those don't change with time.

I definitely wouldn't hang around to find out.

No, they don't. And anyone that thinks they will is deluded. Sounds harsh, but its the truth.

I'm with the others; get out sooner than later, because as long as you hang around he knows that he can get away with it.

BAD HABITS DON'T DIE...
THEY JUST HIBERNATE.

Does anyone (either sex) change abusive behaviour ?

As one of those guys you speak of, I would like to think there is hope for me at least. I have extreme anger issues and sometimes certain things set me off. Before I know it, I've said something I severely regret. It's like I'm outside of my body watching this vicious person hurt someone I care about and love very much. After I've calmed down and realized the extent of my actions, I can't describe the low and terrible feeling that follows. I don't want to be this way. It is the absolute bane of my existence. I definitely get no joy, relief, satisfaction, or ego boost from loosing control.

However, in saying that I didn't really answer the question and I'm afraid I can't yet. I'm actually going to a doctor in two days to see if medication will help. I know that although I haven't changed my ways and attitude as of yet, I'm ready to. Not all of us want to stay in the same bad habits.

My ex never did. It was never his fault. That's one reason on the list we are not together. You so big headed and hard headed. Your all that matters. Ew I hate him.