HIV Support Group

I've been told that you should ALWAYS wrap the package, no matter what.

What are the chances? Really, really slim. Possible, maybe, but very slim.

Well first the other gay may not have HIV, as not that many gay people do have it despite misconception! But yeah, the chances are slim. But if you're worried, go get him tested, better safe than sorry huh?

Sex, of any type, does not cause HIV infection or AIDS. Only sex with an infected person carries a risk. If the person is not infected, the risk is zero. HIV is not the only pathogen to worry about. Herpes simplex viruses are not real deadly, but they are not fun either. Human papilloma viruses and dozens of other things can also be transmitted. Again only if one of the two is infected, can it be passed to the other.

So, it's a good idea to practice safer sex, all the time. But everything in life carries some risk, and we all have to make decisions on risk/benefit ratios even when our brains are not capable to doing a good job at that when it comes to things like sex and food. They say God gave men a brain and a penis, but only enough blood to run one or the other at any given time.

Worry does no good. If there is any doubt, get tested so you can quit worrying.

What are the chances that he could have contracted it from another female before we met over two years ago? we had unprotected sex for over 12 months, and I am negative. Sorry don't mean to keep harping on this.

Perfectly possible. I was positive for two years before I found out, and my husband is negative.

If he was having problems with his wisdom teeth while he perfirmed oral sex...they could have been opening of gum, so a higher risk of if the other person was HIV+ he could be infected, also if he brused his teeth before, and his gum bleed, again another possible direct opening for the virus to get into your partner. Even if he did not ejaculate into your partners mouth...there is pre come, so is a possibility. There is no way to say...this is the chance he has/hasnt got it...only way to put your minds at rest is to get tested.
If you and your partner had a lot of unprotected sex over the 12 months, personally i would say the liklehood s that he isnt hiv+...Did he have unprotected oral sex with this guy, before or after you two had unprotected sex? HIV virus takes three months to be dected in your blood from blood tests....when were you tested for HIV? was it longer than three months after last time you and your partner had unprotected sex?
All i really can advise is the pair of you get down and get tested....the sooner the better. Its understandbale you are concerne, and i feel that by your responses...thinking of ever possibility that you or your partner could have contraceted the virus....no one is immune to the virus, and if you and your partner have put yourselves in the position of possible contracted HIV....which by sounds of it you both have.....go get tested. Its nothing to be ashamed of.....many people have unprotected sex..not wise, but not something you think about at the time. However HIV isnt the only infection either of you mayhave...get tested for whole lot. Hope this help good luck.

tell him to get tested and do not have relations with him till he knows for sure. Believe me, you do not want this horrid disease.

I wouldn't worry about it. If you could HIV in that matter, many of my friends would have it. I had an partner who had full blown AIDS for 5 years. He never used a condom when giving me oral sex. I never got the virus in 5 years and he was highly infectious.

In addition, I performed oral sex on him and didn't it. We did use condoms for everything else always.

Unless your partner has bleeding gums, there's probably no chance of transmission. But it's your call.

I do know many friends who have an HIV pz partner and never use condoms for oral.

Also, if your partner is taking medication, there's even less chance.

Good luck!

PW, I would not be having unsafe sex with the different partners that your partner has had. The only right answer would be that you both go and get tested. You will have your answer right there. If your partner wants to have sex outside of your relationship then I would be very careful about having unprotected sex at all. Your partner should be using condoms and you should be using it as well with anyone. You just never know who is infected and why put yourself or your partner at risk???? It does not make any sense with all of the info that is now available at clinics, doc offices and online. Best bet: BE PROTECTED AT ALL TIMES....get tested and have safe sex...PERIOD!...Good luck and I hope that you and your partner are negative and can resume with your life!