Gay Parenting Support Group

well i'm nto a parent, but my parents explained how they have, no accepted it, but come to terms with it.

my parents finally realized a year after i came out to them that being a homosexual is NOT about who you have sex with, it is about who/what gender you are able to emotionaly connect with.

that realization really helped my mother out, who had a very difficult time( the same gendered parent as the homsexual child often times has a mucher harder time relating to the child after the comingout).

the biggest thing for me was when i told them they took it very hard but right after i told them, they responded by telling me they really really loved me no matter what....that meant alot...most homosexual children don't really think you will stop loving them when they come out, but the reassurance that you still do means the world....

good luck

I have just found out my son that is 15 is gay to. I came to the group to find some help to. I love my son , but have so many different feeling about the whole thing. Im afraid for him in so many ways. I dont know if my husband is going to accept this. he hasnt told him yet.is their any advice that you can give me?maybe we can help one another with this. how old is your son? hope to talk soon, thank you

Well it is a very difficult thing to find out that your child is gay. What is difficult is not the gay part it is what society does and how they act is the most fearful. My son is 15 years old.and he didn't tell me hey mom we need to talk he just blurted it out as I was in the middle of cooking. And after he told me I thought he was kidding then he said it again and I thought I was punched in the stomach. I told him we need to tell your father right away.And my husband was lying down and he came right out and said Dad I'm gay and he screamed out it is about time you told us. He said he always knew I didn't. He hugged him told him he loved him and we both said we fully support you. But then he dropped another bomb which was much harder to take. That he was in love with his very distant cousin which is 23 years old. Which was very hard to deal with. Because of the laws and I wouldn't want him to be arrested. But we spoke to a laywer who informed us of the laws and when he turns 16 he is at a consenting age. We sat down and talked to them both. Things are much better. But the best advice I could give is don't keep your husband in the dark that is the worse thing to do. Love your son be there for him because the world is ugly and hard and it is even harder when you are gay. Any time you want to talk don't think you can't write I'm here for you. Good Luck Just love your son.

Joining a Gay-Straight Alliance and/or a Parents and Friends of Gays And Lesbians group would help alot.