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what an unfortunate predicament
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i have been getting teased (not like, harassed or anything) because i'm still a virgin. i swear i'm not unnattractive or anything, i just cannot get intimate with a guy. my stomach goes all weird, and my head hurts and i just really can't do it. it grosses me out to be that close with a guy. the way their bodies work and all... ehh.
so anyway, i am not out yet, either. there's too much on the line right now. (like 9 years of college financial support from my parents so i can get my doctorate in forensic psychology.) i live in a pretty sheltered area where for some reason gay guys are accepted more easily that lesbians. girls are kind of expected to follow this set of guidelines around guys and for the most part i have except i just can't have sex with them. should i do it and get it over with just to get the teasing out? does anyone have any suggestions on what to say to get it to stop? i'm not coming out yet; maybe when ive finished undergrad but for now i;m getting by with my secret. Posted on 09/05/08, 12:09 am |
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I don't think whether or not you've had sex is anyone's business but yours. Which is pretty much what you should say. Don't say you're a virgin, but don't say you're not. A simple "it's none of your business" should hopefully work. Or, tell them that you respect yourself enough to not have sex until you feel a connection with someone special. Teasing is no reason to have sex and you should respect yourself, sex is a big thing. As for coming out, I'm with you. I'm sure my family won't disown me, but I'd still rather wait until my 6 years of college are over and done with.
This probably didn't help at all. But, if it did and you want to continue the conversation, feel free to send me a message. 
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I agree sex is your buisness. Sex is no one elses buisness. If you are a virgin good for you. I am too. Bottom line is teasing and bugging shouldn't force anyone to do anything that your don't feel comfortable with.
omgahh has the right idea by saying "Its none of your buisness." or say "I'm not ready." or "i believe in absence until marriage." try these hopefully they work. Morose-Mary
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oh HEEELLLLLLLL NO.
sex is such a special thing, and you should only do it when YOU want to.. not when other people want you too. Now if it's the guys who are pressuring you and teasing you then please don't give in to that crap.. because to them... your just another girl they got to sleep with them. they'll be soo fucking proud of themselves and once they start bragging to their friends about what a "playa" they are your gonna feel awful and your gonna regret it. If it's the girls who are teasing you.. then they're the last people you should be listening to. i mean they obviously have no self esteem if they think they need to sleep with guys to be cool. weather it's for a girl or for a guy, i hate to see girls degrade themselves just to please other people. and just act like the teasing doesn't affect you... and it'll eventually stop. i mean don't even respond to it at all... just change the subject and act like you don't care. if you ever need to talk i'm here. good luck with whatever you choose to do
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