Female Sexual Issues Support Group

I've had this issue before. I will start out by saying I cheated on my husband last year, almost exactly a year ago in fact and that I never want to do that again. I hurt him and it damaged me in ways I can't really go in to right now. I go to the infidelity boards for that problem.

Anyway, back then when I cheated my husband was denying me sex. Well things were going great for quite some time. But now we haven't had sex in almost 6 weeks. I hate it. I have been busy with school part-time and he is a business owner and is always busy with that. We also argue very often, not every day but when we do argue it's bad. I could never leave him.

I don't think he would let me anyway but I'm not happy without sex. We were doing it about once per week for quite some time and atleast every other week and I was happy that way. I am the type who feels I have to have that attention from a man in that way and he KNOWS this. We have discussed it many, many times. He can go for months without sex. We once went 7 months without doing anything. I'm sick of going it alone if you konw what I mean but I also know I don't want to jeopardize our marriage by cheating. I have no desire to cheat or seek another man. I know all too well how bad that can end up being in the end. I just want his attention.

How do you ladies get your husband to have sex with you without pushing them? If I have to ask him or push him to have sex with me then it's not the same. I want to be with someone who really wants me.

I've lost a lot of weight this year. I'm down to 101 lbs and look and feel great. I'm 38 and look and feel like a 20 yr old again. I would think that would turn him on but I guess it doesn't. WHY is he so content going without sex?

And before any of you want to chime in and say he is cheating on me, forget it, I know he isn't. You have to be in our marriage but I just know. We work together (big mistake I'm sure) so I'm always home. I still have to be careful that he doesn't think I'll cheat again so I drop our kids off at school and come straight home every day. My school is online classes so I'm here working and studying all day. He is here when he has no appts to do for work.

What makes it very hard is that we are *always* together and all week we are alone together most of the work day and he won't have sex. He won't look at me or touch me on work days. His rules are that we only have sex on weekends and it has to be between 5:00am-7:00am which is not possible these days since our 5 yr old is awake by 5:30 am. Plus, who seriously wants to wake up and have sex at 6:30 am. I never used to enjoy it that early because I'd be half asleep while doing it.

:-( Oh yeah, and we don't sleep in the same bedroom at night so that makes it hard to just have sex really quickly. There is really nothing "normal" about our marriage but I hang in there because I do love him and want the best for our children. He is good to us in all ways. He just doesn't want sex and we argue a lot. I just feel lonely a lot.
Posted on 09/02/07, 08:09 am