Female Sexual Issues Support Group

You really need to be careful about the getting pregnant thing, even if your family were not involved. Are you ready to bring? What if this man wants no part? You could make him pay financially, but you couldn't make him care. So do whatever you need to avoid the pregnancy, and beyond that, unless your parents are supporting you, it isn't really their business. Also, are you ready for the emotional baggage that may come with adding sex to the mix? Are you willing to have a sexual relationship with someone with a low sex drive? Just some things to think about.

Your 21 now your old enough to make your own decissions. If you are even thinking about having sex with ur guy then i think you should see ur GP and get yourself on the pill. If you use the pill and condoms then there is LITTLE chance of you getting preg. I think you should do what makes you feel happy if you are ready for a sexual relationship then you should go for if. I know we should all respect our mother and fathers point of veiw BUT this dose not mean we have to live our lifes the way they want us 2. LIFES TOO SHORT ENJOY IT WHILE YOU CAN

I noticed: "new boyfriend".
couple of questions: Are you a virgin? How long have you been bf/gf? How many years older is this guy? Are your parents hard-core Bible-thumpers? I hope I do not come across as blunt. But Stuff to think about. Please post the reply.

Also, And it shouldnt matter, but your Parents may only see one color.

Yes I am a virgin,sad I know lol!Wev'e only been together for about a month or so,im not saying we should have sex straight away.I want to get to know him better first.He's 26 and I live with my aunt and uncle who are very christian but not complete shove it down your throat or else you go to hell types,however I think my parents may be a little more like that.

if you want to be able to make ya own decisions and not worrie about them finding out then have you ever thought of geting ya own place. amd take major steps to avoide geting preg and rember nothing is 100% effective. but do what makes you happy

Yes are you ready for the possibility that you might get pregnant? If you do have sex make sure that he withdrawls with a condom on.

Maybe you want to wait until you are comfortable enough with him to have a conversation with him about all these issues. Are you ready to ask him about birth control, what would happen if you got pregnant, if he is Christian if he wants to wait or not, and to talk about your worries about all of this and your faith??? I think once you have this type of conversation with him you will feel more comfortable making a decision about what you want to do.

will you feel sluty later on when you look back? i think that you might answer that first. alot of society wouldn't but i am concerned that with such a strong foundation on abstinance you might regreat it later. you've learned that longer than what you have been hearing that it's not so bad and because these are the veiws and opinions of the people that love you, later on their opinions are gonna be the ones that sffect you.

Its a big step and, with respect to the, "you're 21 and whatever you want to do, you should be able to do" crowd, I would first say, congratulations on remaining a virgin and for admitting it here. I'm not moralizing; its about the opportunity to make the first time for you a great time with someone you really feel strongly about. I think that's what it should be, and you're right to wonder if its the right thing to do. Only you can decide that. You don't seem to share your family's religious beliefs. This is YOUR life and it sounds like, so far, you've made some great decisions. But, if you do decide that this is the right guy, then I say go for it. Just make SURE you practice safe sex. The consequences are heavy. One other consequence is that, sooner or later, your family will probably find out about it. I would prepare for that eventuality. Try this out for size: "I really understand where you're coming from, mom and dad, but I want you to understand that there are few moral absolutes. I respect your values and priorities; I need you to respect mine. I care for _____, a lot. I feel like it was the right person and the right time. I'm sorry if you don't agree, but I would still like you to respect my decision, even if its difficult for you right now." Good luck kiddo!

amonth is all you known him Goodness whats the hurry losing your virginity should be with mr. right.Patience dear u will know when the times right