Female Sexual Issues Support Group

if your not feeling like having sex all the time thats okay. it doesnt mean you wont get married, thats just how you are.

If all these men hadn't told you you were abnormal and our culture was less hypersexual you wouldn't even know the difference.

I've heard of men with as low of a sex drive as you.

I've heard that herbal remedies really can work.

I've also heard of stimulating gels, but I think that's for when you're already going to have sex and it just stimulates the vaginal opening...

I would say... be patient for a man that totally understands.

And... well, this is off the wall to some, but if you found a guy that you really loved, totally wanted to commit yourself forever to... Would you allow him, perhaps, to cleanly and safely tend to his needs with another woman? I know, it sounds crazy, but there are people that have multiple wives, there are swingers and there are girls that just like the idea of being a slut without actually being a real slut... *shrugs* I mean, it's not like you're assuming he's going to stray or cheat... You just want him to be wholey happy. It may not hurt to give him permission to chose one girl, that you meet and know well enough to be certifiably disease free...

*hides and ducks from any oncoming rocks or tomatos*

TiredLitt,

Yes I started dating a guy recently and the topic came around and I explained my sex drive to him. I'm still waiting for my test results to see if maybe I have a thyroid problem. If it's a thyroid problem then maybe hormone medication will assist this. If it is not a thyroid problem then i will start looking into natural herbs.

I told the guy that I just started dating that if I couldn't be sexual enough then maybe he could mess around with someone else. I understand what it's like or what it may feel like to be frustrated. You start to build resentment towards the other person. I know that I can not live up to 5-7 times a day of doing it. I know the guy I just started dating said he could probably do it 5-7 times a day. He said as soon as he finishes he feels like he could do it again or wants it again after 5 minutes. I was like wow I can't relate to that. I do pretend though....not fully pretend....sometimes it feels good other times it's more of going through the motion. But I know I can't keep that up for long. I hope I get answers soon.

I know I said to him that he could possibly mess around with someone else in the future. We are both Christians and committing adultery is wrong. But I understand....it breaks my heart that I would have to let my man mess around with someone else just to be with me but I understand the sacrifice. I just wish i was good enough. I know we all have our strengths and weaknesses and our disabilities. We just have to accept what we are and what we are able to give and let others or more important God fill in the rest. No one is perfect...it's just sad and saddens my heart that this is the reality of my life. Kind of a loss....kind of an acceptance. Somethings we can not do anything about in life....But realize everything else in our life that God had blessed us with. I am grateful for everything that I have in my life. We can't have it all. No body wants to feel or be different or not have what others have. But we have to make the best of what God has given us and be grateful for those things. Only God is perfect and God doesn't give us any thing more than we can handle.....