Female Sexual Issues Support Group

My husband and I are totally alone this weekend for the whole weekend (kids are staying with family) and he refuses to have sex except at 5:30am in the morning and no other time of the day. I didn't want to have sex upon waking this morning so I said maybe tomorrow. He didn't really act like he wanted it either. He was more worried about eating breakfast.

So now I sit here on the computer while he does what he wants in his own area of the house. I asked if he wanted to do it now but he said he thought we were waiting until tomorrow. He said early a.m. morning is best for HIM. I said what about me? Why can't he just surprise me and want sex out of the ordinary?? We used to have sex just whenever the mood hit but for the last eight years it happens at 5:30-6:00am or it doesn't happen at all and we only have sex one time per month, IF that often. I can't stand it.

My husband says I put too much emphasis on sex. But it's one thing to "want" to do it and a totally other thing to actually do it. I could see if I were making him have sex every week or several times a week. Instead I settle for when "HE" decides he wants to do it and that is usually once per month or once every other month. He KNOWS I need the closeness that only sex brings and yet he refuses to be on my side every now and then and satisfy my needs. It's not even about the big O, it's more about just being as close as we can be and enjoying one another in that way. Why can't he see that?

Plus, when we do sex it's not that enjoyable anyway. Like I said, I do it for the closeness. He only wants to be satisfied and it's all about him during sex. But again, he refuses to see that. He thinks I'm being pushy and mean if I just want to talk about the subject so here I sit all angry and pissed off at him. I don't even want to do it tomorrow, but I know if we don't it will be at least another month before we have a chance to do it. He uses the kids as an excuse when they're here. And work days are out. No Mon-Fri sex. He says he can't have sex on the days he works. He didn't use to have a problem with that pre-marriage.
Posted on 05/17/08, 09:05 am