Female Sexual Issues Support Group

Sorry is that all kinds of sexuality and intimacy?

do you consider your husband to be your boyfriend? my hubby and i flirt. we flirt all day. we flirt when he is at work. what helps is texting something naughty to him. could you try to look at him as your boyfriend and not your husband. that makes it a little more exciting. he would REALLY appreciate some of the things you could do as his girlfriend again.

I can definitely relate. It's hard because my bf always wants it and I never do. I resent the fact that I have to do it when I don't want to, yet I know it's something that makes him happy. We're still trying to figure out how to deal.

I used to be like that, it actually took alcohol to get me going! I would do anything to get out of sex, but now, I want it more then anything. Every night I have it in my dreams, and apparently I am getting very bold!

I love my boyfriend and I am having difficulty getting aroused. I don't know what to do. I don't want to have sex anymore, but do it to make him happy. Is there anything to help me in this situation?

I feel your pain! I have definately felt this way many many times!....I realized that I like women, and that was why I always had such a problem with it. I guess what I can tell you is to look inside yourself and ask, "what is my deepest, most honest feelings about this?" That helped me anyways....good luck and you are not alone!

I don't know if you are someone for whom this sort of thinking would work or not, but I have known a lot of people--male and female, but especially female--including myself, who have been able to hang onto one of the things you actually said: "I want nothing more than to please." If you really want to please that badly and you love him, think of those two facts, those two major feelings, and run with them. If he wants sex and you're not quite in the mood, just remember that he will be happy if you do it; he will be pleased. If you want to please so badly, do you feel happy or good when you've done something that has made him feel happy or good, something that pleased him? If so, then thinking this way about sex will mean that even if you don't like sex, you can still like the feeling of having pleased him. Of course there's always the question of whether you just don't enjoy what he's doing and maybe you need to spice things up or talk about it...but hey, i hope something works out for you. Sex can be a wonderful thing, and hell enough other things cause you stress daily; sex shouldn't have to be one of them. :P

I can relate too. I hate sex most of the time because I'm not getting much out of it, and it seems like work that I get little out of.

I'm sorry to say this but that's one of the reasons I had to leave my husband. He couldn't please me sexually. I guess that's why I'm always looking at other men. It always felt like an obligation having sex with him. I couldn't stand it and couldn't wait for it to be over. Good thing it only lasted for a couple of minutes. I was starting to wonder is that normal or am I supposed to be getting more from the deal? Any word from anyone?

I feel this way too. I have reached a point where I can talk about it openly with my husband and find something that I can enjoy about it as well. Even if it's just snuggling before or after, we try to make sure we are pleasing each other in some way.