Female Sexual Issues Support Group

You answered your own question at the end of your post. You said "the challenge is gone". Marriage is work and so is keeping your H happy. Sometimes it seems that it's never enough for them. Perhaps you don't always have to have intercourse if your too tired. Give him a nice hand or bj. I'm sure he will love it no matter how you show him love. On the days/nights that you are rested and want it, do something special for him. Wear the nighties and be aggressive. I'm sure he will understand that you may not have his drive but you will do things to please him.
Another piece of advice I would like to give you is that even though you may not be into it as much as he is don't show it on your face. Always let him know how good he makes you feel. I hear of so many women who look like they rather be somewhere else while their H's are making love to them.

Now that i'm settled with my bf I have a calmer sex drive, but I still enjoy it. I think that is just what happens the longer you are with someone. It's good that your guy is so attracted to you though!

I agree with post of you and thanks. I love sex and I guess I'm just not as gung ho as I used to be, but I should look at the positives more often...my hubby still finds me attractive and I'm in love

I'm a man aged 44. I got married with my wife(now 43) 12 yrs ago.
We have a 8 yrs old daughter and we absolutely love each other.
There's a sexual issue that - after 12 yrs - is putting at risk our relationship (on my side).

In the early stages of our relationship the sexual attitude of my wife was flamboyant and - I dare say - nicely aggressive. She used to have sex with me in every place in the house, outdoor, in a bus, in the forest. while bathing in the sea. She surprised me with oral sex while I was watching a film or helping her doing chores. She wore lingerie, we did it every single day.
She made me feel a king!

As soon as we got married, with some problems to face (I was previously a widower so there were many strings attached to our situation) her sexual drive began to fade a bit and we started to have a simple sex intercourse in the bed, in the same missionary position, a couple of times or three a week.
I got disappointed, but . although I've been angry at times, I did my best to court her and make her happy (first of all because I love her) also in the attempt to get back to our previous sexual life.

Over 11 years of marriage I can say I haven't got any result.
She's very satisfied with our sexual routine. We never stopped to have our 2-3 intercourse a week (I'd call them quickies, actually) but I'm not satisfied.

She can't see no reason for this, We do it, that's it! When I ask something different she ends up doing all the same. She says it's not important what we do, we love each other, what's most beautiful than a normal sexual act in bed between two people who love the way we do?
She really loves me a lot, is full of attentions and care with me.

But I'd rather have less attention and care and be a "sexual object of desire" for her! I'd like to be surprised the way she did in the past. feeling that she still crave me as a man.

I'm still an attractive and athletic man and there is many a beautiful woman who cast her eyes on me but I love only my wife, I desire only her, and she's the one that I want. I just need to do it more, and more importantly, to do something different. I often try to explain her that an unexpected hand or oral job in an unusual situation is much more gratifying than ten standard sexual intercourse in bed.

I'm getting fed up with my marriage and losing interest in my wife and I'm alarmed. I don't want anything but her but inside me something is screaming and I want my lovely naughty woman back. Sometimes I'm even thinking about divorce.
On her side she feels comfortable with his wife/mother role, she's more shy in bed, she's calm, but she likes her present condition. She probably feels that the kind of surprises or sexuality we had in the past are not suitable with her 43 yrs?

I need an advice from a woman who help me to understand the problem from my wife point of view!
Thx

No advice here. I'd love to have a husband that wanted sex all the time. I'm lucky to get it once a month.

COSTA...BE LIKE MY HUSBAND AND BE MORE AGGRESSIVE. IT MAY CAUSE A FIGHT OR SOMETHING BUT AT LEAST THE ISSUE CAN GET OUT THERE. SHE IS NOT UNDERSTANDING YOUR SIDE. I UNDERSTAND MY HUSBANDS FRUSTRATION AND ITS MY JOB TO TRY AND FIX IT SHE NEEDS TO DO THAT AS WELL..NOT FOR HER BUT FOR YOU.

I am in the same situation as Fixation. So I wish I could help you!