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I'm on summer break from my first year of college. I was planning on staying there, until I received an email from my mother telling me I needed to come home as my dad's condition was getting even worse. In the two weeks I've been home, he's been in the hospital twice, stopped eating, and can barely walk. As he is there now, when he comes home my mother and I will assume responsibility in caring for him--he now needs constant iv's, pain medication, and will for the most part be confined to a bed. It looks like this will be the end of our time together.
I was initially having a really hard time with all my emotions/feelings. I can't/don't want to talk to my mom because I feel I have to be strong for her. And all my good friends seem are unreachable (at camps or in the mountains). I was feeling very alone, but DS has really helped-knowing other people feel the same way. Just wanted to say thanks for sharing! I've only shared the graveity(sp?) of my dad's situation with one friend. The people who I do talk to, I'm friends with but not that close. They keep asking me "how summer's going." I don't want to lie and say its going good because it's not. I'm having to become an adult much faster than I ever thought I would. At the same time, I don't want to damper my friends' summers with how bad mine is. How should I respond to their inquiries? Posted on 07/03/08, 03:07 am |
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I'm so sorry to hear of all of this. Believe me, I understand. Everyone seems so carefree and relaxed and our life is centered around doctors, cancer treatments, calls to 911, hospital stays, medications, etc.
This morning I blew up at my husbands dentist. He went to have a cavity filled and the dentist wanted to extract a tooth next Tuesday. (The dentist has wanted to remove this tooth for several years.) I told the dentist this was totally out of the question as Jim is scheduled to start round 5 of his chemo the next day! He doesn't need another antibotic and pain killers. He needs a break from all of this stuff. There is little compasion out there. You will find it here though on DS. Hugs to you! 
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I am so sorry for you and your family. I know what you mean about answering your friends questions. Sometimes I feel like it would just be easier if they didn't ask..you don't want to lie but you also don't want to be debbie downer all the time or feel pressure to talk about things you don't feel like talking about. Maybe just try saying that you have a lot of personal (or family)stuff going on..that way they should obviously know its not a good summer but that its not something you want to share. Hope I've helped.
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