Family & Friends of Bipolar Support Group

What are the nature of the calls/msg's etc?
He should respect that you are uncomfortable about it and not do it unless it is like legitimately work related or something.

First it is more then one person texting/messaging/im'ing. Second spouse does not work so she is not getting anything related to that. As to the nature I am told they are "just" friends. Most are divorced or seperated.

Are you friends with ppl also ?

Yeah, but I don't give out my cell # and home # to people on DS. I pm people and send hugs. 99% of my journals are open. I also make it a "point" to let my spouse know who I will be talking to. Is that not what a marriage is supposed to be about, no secrets (at least in that sense).

I meant to say do you know these ppl she is talking too.LOL I am a dork early in the AM.

I think you are handling things right.Telling her who you are talking with etc.If you are not friends w/ these ppl too then I would personally think it was out of line for her to get msgs from them. It is best I have found after 16 yrs of marriage not to test those waters.A friend of the opp. sex that is also not a mutual friend can be an issue very easily.Not that she cannot have friends but just having random guys msg'ing her sounds like she may like the attn and that can be dangerous in a relationship.She should look to you for that attn. not other guys.Especially ones you do know and feel confident of their intentions.

Sorry, I did not mean to seem crossed. I guess it is just frustrating. I am not friends with the ppl, they are on her friends list. There are ones that I know their real name and they seem like good friends. The others are none I know. She has supposedly posted that I am also on the site but none have made and effort to contact me. That is okay, I understand that somewhat.

You did not sound cross.It is a legitimate concern you guys should sit down and talk about it before it causes anymore trouble between you.

If he is in a Manic or sever depresion mood he gets very strange texts. Usually the texts are from some girl he just met. whether as a friend or more. Difference is when rational he shows me anything that he feels is not appropriate and has the person stop. It is usually left over from his stupidity!!

I would have a problem with it too.

As an ExFirefighter, you know, with there is smoke, there could be fire (it might smoulder out, but it could ignite!)

Yup, yup, yup! And I've even found pictures!! I know some of you all ready know this.

As of right now, things are all right and he hasn't been doing it, at least not according to our last cell phone bill.