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Hi
I'm wondering what you do when your friend/family member is isolating. She's told me before that she doesn't isolate from me, but I'm fairly certain she is right now. If I call, she'll answer, but the second I start to bring an end to the conversation (i.e. "I should go soon, need to...) she'll hang up. She also just seems low, withdrawn, depressed. The thing is I have my own insecurities, so when she acts like this I have a really hard time believing it's symptomatic and not just her not wanting to talk to me. So I've read that it's good to call to check up on people when they're isolating, can be helpful, etc, but I do feel bad calling when I get the feeling she doesn't want to talk (we generally do talk on the phone quite a lot). I don't know if I should or what to say or anything, really. (I realize we probably should talk about this but I think waiting for a better mood would be a good idea...) Posted on 04/19/08, 08:04 pm |
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Most of us have dealt with this issue. I have been shut out by my BP friend for several months now. It is very painful and hard not to take personally. The best thing you can do is let her know that you are her friend and you are there for her if she wants to talk and give her the space she needs. Unfortunately we've all come to realize that this is one of the bad sides to the disease. 
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I agree with sadfriend. When my husband feels fine I try to make the most out of it because I know that sooner or later there's going to be one of those phases in which he doesn't even want to look at me.
I've learned to deal with it and I know is the BP in him.Don't feel bad when it happens, try not to pressure her either. Instead try to dedicate those times she wants to be by herself to you and only you. We're always so caught up with our BP loved ones, that we often forget we need time for ourselves too. Good Luck {{{HUGS}}}
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Thanks.
Apparently it was not isolation so much as an Ativan overdose...which thank God was not enough to do anything really serious but was enough to make her say things she didn't mean, be incoherent, and not remember conversations the next day.
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