Family Issues Support Group

Does your husband feel the same way, you do about his family? I know that mine isn't so fond of my family coming for visits but to me they are family and he just needs to learn to deal with them. They only come everynow and then. Is there more behind their visits?

He is now afraid to tell me when they are coming over. So I found out that the brother was coming when the brother called. My husband said he was scared to tell me. I felt like all the trust that I built with my husband went out the window because if you can't tell me something as small as your family member is coming over then what else are you not telling me just to avoid confrontation.

Okay, it is 10am on Sunday morning and his brother is at the door having a long winded conversation. I offered him to come in and he said he had to get on the road soon. They are still standing there with the door open talking. WOW!

I know the feeling. We have moved away from my inlaws, but might be moving back at some point.

My brother in law was the same way. He's 41 and has no friends and has never had a relationship before. Wierd. Well, actually he has and he shared a place with a guy. I'm sure he is gay. Anyways, that wasn't the problem. But, because he is in the closet he has no one, ever. So, he would just show up and visit for the day, sometimes staying over night, because he had been drinking. He has gone to almost every function of ours, with our kids when they were little. He just thinks cause he's my husband's brother that he is family and should be included in everything. Unreal. Even his mother, would call and say well he's never invited over, that is why he just comes over. Well, come on get a life.

So, I had to be rude a few times, now he never comes over. I didn't really want that, but there just couldn't be an in between, if you know what I mean. I don't know why.

I'm sure when we move back, his mother will come over with him and her daughter, cause she is single and screwed up too.

MIL sent my kids a gift at xmas and even though her kids are in their 40's now, she sends three things, one from all of them. Like their kids or something. Their all nuts. We don't have this with my family. I hate his family. I'm so sick of it.

So, the moral here is to be rude. Tell them how you feel. Sounds like your husband hasn't done that. Mine wouldn't so I did. Good luck.

Sounds like we married into the same family. The MIL would give her children Christmas gifts and put from Santa. They're so busy trying to push their way in our home but we never get invited over their home. One time we were invited for a cook out and they didn't know how to cook the food. The brother put the chicken on the grill without washing it. I had Thanksgiving at my home once and I cooked and went to work because I was working in a Call Center and when I came home they had devoured all the food. I didn't even have turkey for a sandwich the next day. They are inconsiderate and don't respect our marriage.