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My dad isn't well and is 74 years old. My dad has a memory problem, his wife won't tell me or doesn't know herself what is wrong.

Monday my dad finally picked up the phone and called me because my husband and I hadn't been over to see them in a couple of months and I had told him in his Christmas card he could call us. At that time I told him we would stop by sometime on the 1st but I would call first. So yesterday his wife called and said your dad said you were going to come by sometime today. I said yes but we would call first, then she said that they had to go to the grocery store and she was going to lay down. She the said that she guessed it would be alright if we came by while she was laying down.

There is a little history to go along with all of this. My mother passed away almost 28 years ago, and this is my dad's 3rd wife they have only been married since May of 1994. I am the oldest of 4, I live in the same town that my dad does. I have 2 brothers who live over 800 miles away and don't talk to my dad because he won't call them and we had a very disfunctional family life a kids and not treated well by our father. Then I have a sister who lives over 1,000 miles away. I know from things that have been emailed to me that she has been talking to my dad and his wife in the last couple of years. My sister is a known liar and theif, having stolen things from my parents and having lost a job because of steeling. She had lied to my brothers for over 25 years about me so they didn't even talk to me because of the lies. She also lived with all of us at one time or another while we were in our late 20's early 30's causing problems for all of us.

Now, I believe that my dad's wife is hearing the same lies my sister told my brothers. It has gotten to me that I have tried to control my dad and his wife's life. This is not true. When my dad started getting forgetful and so on she ask me what should she do. I told her to talk to his doctor. A little over a year ago I found out that my dad had driven to one of his doctors office and was gone and lost for about 3 hours. At that time I called her and told her that my dad had no business driving at all, and that I didn't want him to drive.

Now, I am concerned. We don't know what is wrong with my dad and his wife acted as if she didn't want my husband and I over there. Please give me some ideas.
Posted on 01/02/08, 11:01 pm