Family & Friends of Cancer Patients Support Group

i've just joined - unfortunately, because i've had to. we just found out yesterday that my ex's step-dad has been diagnosed with leukemia & has been given one year to live - & that's with aggresive chemo, apparently. (that's all in my profile for joining.)

my immediate question, for now at least, is: we have 2 boys together, my ex & i - ages 11 & 17. we share custody. she has had a very rocky go of it, post-divorce. her recovery/reclamation from alcoholism & mental illness (diagnosed with both of the BPDs) is due in large part to him - both actively, & also as a role model (he is a recovering alsoholic himself - and has been for over 30 years). he has quite literally been the rock on that side of the family. my ex had said, even before the split, that she thought she would have died many times if it were not for him.

sorry - i'm going on a bit & not getting to my question. anyway, i know she told the boys last night. i am not sure what she said or how the took it (they are both pretty sensitive). what can i expect with them? how should i deal with it with them? they are both in school & have some difficulty maintaining focus, eventhough they are both very bright (even brilliant) - ADD, you know. i fear this will de-rail them. the divorce kinda did before this. how do i keep them on track?

thanks!
Posted on 05/08/08, 11:05 am