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I am so fed up with my husband's drinking that I just don't know how much longer I can take it? I am so depressed lately, I smoke like a fiend, can't get much sleep and feel so alone. I can't believe a word he says anymore about trying to change and be a better husband because they are just words and empty promises. The drinking only gets worse. He doesn't drink at home, he just disappears to the neighborhood bars or his friends house. We have so many bills its pathetic so I can't even try to save much money for my departure even if I wanted to. I feel so trapped and I feel like he doesn't try to change because he thinks I will never leave so why should he? There is noone in my small family that I can ask for financial help so I am really stuck. The hard part is we have been together for 15 years but the last 2 is where it all fell apart. A part of me still loves him but that is not enough anymore. Sometimes I wish I could just disappear from my whole life.
Posted on 03/22/08, 02:03 pm |
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So sorry for your pain. Ive lived through it and made it through. I made my escape because I had to for my son. After his last round of a 7 week binge and thousands of dollars later I decided enough was enough. When I left I wasnt planning on it being permanent, but I did it for ME to get myself together and do some really deep soul searching. 2 weeks into it he decided he was not willing to get help or work on the marriage and even then it took me up until now to sever the ties. I am healthier and happier than I think I have even been right now. everyone is different and each situation is different but you have to learn how detachment and they will teach you that in Alanon. detachment doesnt have to mean that you split up but it does mean that you dont make his recovery your responsibility. Karmic lesson number one for me. you have to do whats best for you and I know how difficult that is when you love someone who is not well. Its time to put you first.. HUGE hugs to you...I wish you the best and msg me anytime if you need anything at all 
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