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My son Jake is 24. He is a heroin addict. I brought him to my home on the condition he stays till I get him in an inpatient treatment center. We got him to a Methadone clinic & then from there to a Suboxone clinc. But when inpatient treatment called his name he refused to go. Said, I am an adult & you can't make me go. The treatment was going to be for 1 year. He is not an adult the drugs have made him immature & have low self=esteem & depression problems. He only nakes enough $$ to pay for his Suboxone not enough to pay for his own apartment & utilities etc..
I told him I had done all I could to help him & he had to want to help himself. I can't have him hide in my house & be a "Baby Man" all his life he has got to be a man. I said if you made an adult decision to continue to take drugs then I do not have to suffer for your decisions, you must own up to & face the consequences of your life choices. He was going to possibly lose his unemployment soon & then no $$ for Suboxone which meant chasing heroin anyway he could. Which he has stolen & things from me to get it. I told him it was temporary to stay here till I found him help & since he refused it he needed to go live his life. I had him leave my house. He does have 2 jobs now but no stable place to stay. I cry & worry about him, I feel I have turned my back on my precious baby boy. I pray God will forgive me for any mistakes I made as a parent that led him to use drugs. I pray the Lord will keep him safe & save him from drugs. I can't have that behavior in my house anymore & he can't live with mommy forever. A parent feels like a failure if a child is not independent or able to care for themselves in this world. I don't drink, do drugs, smoke, handle foul language etc... I don't even drink coffee, but my baby, my only son is out ther homeless & on drugs because of me.... What do I do now?? Help! Jake's Mom has a broken heart..... Posted on 10/01/08, 04:10 pm |
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This support group is awesome. I have also found Al-Anon meetings very helpful. Maybe you could benefit from going to a Nar-Anon meeting, for family and friends of drug addicts. If you're interested, here's a link to find meetings in your area.
http://nar-anon.org/naranongroups.htm 
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Jakes Mom.
I work at a Drug Recovery Center For Women, It is not your Faught, This is a Disease your son has, its not even his faught, some people can do drugs and not get hooked on them but in his case he is one of them that did,I'm sure he didnt wake up one morning and say I think I will be a Drug addict, no thats not how it works,and he isnt trying to make you feel bad as a parent , its and addiction and he will never not be a addict , what he needs to do is admit he is a addict, tell him to try and get help ASAP,I see it everyday with the women I am around they are learning to deal with their addictions and stand up and get the help they need before its to late, Tell Jake there are Recovery centers out there all he has to do is take the first step they will help him ,I lost my son 3 weeks ago in a fatal car crash, he didnt have a chance , tell Jake He still has a chance God could take him away in a blink of an Eye, so while he still has a chance to save himself tell him to please get the help he needs so you dont have to go though what I am now with the loss of a Son...may this help you ,Tell Jake I'll be praying for him..
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