Families & Friends Affected By Suicide Support Group

im so sorry ,what your feeling is very normal,i guess its a process,but the guilt and relief you described is part of the grieving and its ok to think that way,please dont be too hard on yourself,it may never get easier to live without our loved ones but in time hopefully you will find a way to cherish the memories and go on ,as hard as its been for me,i have learnt to live again without my little sis by my side,take care

Shawna, I am so sorry about what happened to your brother and that he did not get the help he needed in time. Perhaps he was not in his right mind due at the time, or perhaps he simply gave up on life. If there is any way you can seek counseling, it may help you deal with your grief (google grief counseling for your area). You may in time find yourself feeling angry at your brother for what he did to himself and to you. Try to forgive him. I know it doesn't help that much, but please try to remember your brother is no longer suffering.

I am so sorry for the lost of your brother. All your feelings are very normal. Suicide leaves a deep deep pain that noone except someone who has lived thur it understands. I have found these support groups are very helpful in giving me a place to unload when I need to. My dad committed suicide 9 months ago and to answer your question if it gets easier, yes and no. Yes, it gets better because over time you find a place for the pain and put it there. No, because you have to really work at keeping that pain down and when it gets up, it's hurts just as bad as it did in the beginning. We have to take it minute by minute, day by day. There is no method to this, just do what we can to get thur each day. Try to get allot of rest and drink lots of water, one day you will reclaim your life and you don't want your health to go down. I know the drinking water sound stupid, but greiving drains us and give us that appearence of aging. Be extra gentle with yourself and don't hurry anything. Cry, cry,cry....talk, talk, talk. Time is your friend. I will keep you in my prayers that you will find comfort for your heart and peace for your mind. Again, I am so sorry for your lost.

Much Hugs
Lorie

Yes. It gets "easier". And people who choose suicide are very strong, very determined, do not feel guilty that you should have protected him from himself. He didn't want to be protected. He left his pain and suffering, he didn't leave you. Wishing you peace.

I really do feel like he abandoned me. I miss him so much. I can typically hold it together during the day but at night when I'm alone I lose it. I just want him back and I know that is selfish but I want to be selfish. He's my brother.

Shawna, I can tell you that after sitting in counseling sessions with others who've lost family members to suicide, that it never gets easier, you never understand it, but you get through it. Some of these people lost a loved one years ago, and they're still struggling in some way. I tell myself that Vincent died of depression. One person last night said that they would never be the person they were before, never have the same life again, but that they were hoping to find a "new normal" some day.