Families & Friends Affected By Suicide Support Group

Hey there ~ Have you gone and talked with a counselor? You should consider starting with a few deep breaths.....this is not going to be an easy part of your life's journey, but none the less, it is a path you are being forced to travel. I've been on the same journey for 5 months now. I too struggle each day, but what I've learned from the people in this group, all of us on the same path, have one another to lean on and learn from. If you need to be around people, then do that. If everyone happens to busy and you find yourself feeling alone.....come here. You are never alone ~ together we will all travel this road together, assisting each other every step of the way!

I agree with AFWC 100%, we all are traveling the same hard path here and you are never alone cause all of us are here too. Counseling has really helped me deal with what's happened and seeing someone was probably the best thing I did for myself.

Let me know if you need anything. I'm here for if you just need someone to talk to.

ty..... i have tried a counselor but she was only free 3 times from my job = ( i am not poor but i got no money... i dont make enough money for car insurance....

i dont have to many friends down here so even less are ever free... and some of my friends stopped talking to me and didnt tell me why...

Hey Italian, I read your posts about the insurance. Yes, it is pathetic the way insurance works. Boynton Beach is large enough there should be different support groups around. Try calling this number below to see if you can join this support group. It says family support, but I don't see why you couldn't go as well.

As far as friends dropping out of site, that happens. Young people often to do not have the maturity to lend a hand and support a friend going through such a tragic loss.

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Family Support After Suicide
8500 Jog Road
Boynton Beach, FL 33437
Group Name: Family Support After Suicide
Contact Person: Ronny Cutler
(561) 369-3800
Leadership Type: P/P
Meetings/Month: 2 - 1st and 3rd Wednesdays
Charge: No
Newsletter: No

One more thought about the friends who have dropped out of sight. You may hear from them later, after a certain amount of time has passed. Not everyone is able to be supportive in a crisis. What you're going through right now may be too intense for them to handle. After a time, they may feel bad for not being there for you and they may try to contact you again. Don't hold it against them. No one's perfect.

TY i will call them monday....

so should i just not try to contact these friends and wait for them to come to me = (

I think you should contact them as often as you did before this tragedy struck. If they were an occasional friend, just call every once in a while, etc. Be prepared for some of them to avoid the subject of your girlfriend altogether. There will be days when you want to talk about your girlfriend, and I imagine you know who you can call by now. There will also be days when you just have to get away from things for a while. That will be the time to call a "different" sort of friends.

I'm afraid your acquaintances will fall into two categories now: those who "get it" and those who don't. I know guys usually aren't good at this sort of thing, but if there is a special friend who has backed away from you, someone you really miss and wish you could talk to. You might try sending them an email just to say hello and you'd been wondering about them.

A lot of times people are so uncomfortable about the subject of suicide, they back away--not knowing what to do, what to say or not to say. People may be waiting for you to let them know you want to talk about it.

Where I live, there's a catholic church that hosts a special mass each month for those who are grieving a suicide. The priest in charge lost his brother many years ago to suicide, and I am told he gives a really good sermon. Maybe once you join a support group you will find out about events such as the one I describe above.

Be sure and give the support group thing at least two or three tries before making a decision on whether or not it's the right thing for you. The first time I went it was overwhelming. It was a very powerful experience, and I wasn't sure I could do it. Now 3 mos after, it is very comforting for me to have a place I can go where everyone understands what I'm going through.