Families of Prisoners Support Group

I completely agree. Yea, they have it hard, but sometimes I wish i could sit in jail, free room and board, no bills, food to eat, cable tv. Mostly I have no food, no TV, and have to struggle to pay bills. My guy does not appreciate what i am going through, demands money when i have none, and treats me like shit. I think his sentence should be to be here, chop wood, or live in the cold, like i have, and support me for awhile. And no going out ever. That would kill that sucker. No, I am not happy with his attitude while in there. I am working 36 hour shifts, hardly any sleep, and they can nap when they want. I am not so sure who really got sentenced.

AMEN! YOU ARE SO CORRECT NOWHEREGIRL!!!!!!!!!!!! Mine does not ask any more, he knows I don't have it to give. Most people do not see it this way as you pointed it out...

I needed this. I was feeling a bit sorry for HIM today! Thanks everyone.

Wow!! I agree! I'm glad we all feel this way!

I haven't been dealing with this as long as some of you strong women, but yeah I doubted this relationship and i have been angry for what's happened and how it has changed both of our lives forever. In the end, it was a mistake on his part, and a big one. The only thing that keeps me going is that I am 100% positive that if I was in his place, he would stand by me to support me and comfort me. If I wasn't sure of that, then I wouldn't be here right now doing this. With that comes the fact that my bf respects me a 100% too. He looks out for my best interests, worries that I'm ok, and wouldn't think of bitching about not being supportive enough. While we should all be there to support the ones we love, we need to make sure not to lose ourselves in the process. Live for YOU as well, sometimes that means demanding appropriate respect from your loved one. If you don't get the love, respect, and support that you deserve and give to your partner so freely, then you might need to step back and evaluate your situation. the most important thing you can do for your relationship is to not forget to love yourself too.

I understand, t should feel that way, when you are left with all that strain on you all at one time that is mormal and as time goes on it get worse because at first you think all about them and getting through it but as time goes on you grow tierd and stressed and it just seems like time geos by so slow and the pressure builds like even when you are happy there is a dark cloud always with you. I would love not to struggle with bills and things like that, I am raising three kids alone, but ladys focus on your self as much as you can and build your self, look at them when you see them, how they look, better then ever, do they hate being there yes, but they are healthy and strong from you and if you can do that for them you can do it for you.

Thank you all for your comments. It sometimes helps to know that you are not the only one going through something. As hard as it is to do alone, I'm glad that I have the support and caring from the wonderful people on this site.

Hi, I dont have any words of wisdom,,,,, other, then I read a poem,,,,,,,,, called DONT QUIT........... I am a grandma raising 2 small kids, because my daughter is into drugs,,,,,,,,,,,, and my son is in jail,,, probably going to prison,,,I am a single person,,, and I get so down , I want to give up, but I WONT QUIT,,,

I actually just sent a letter off to my hubby this week regarding this same issue. I don't ever get angry or resentful towards him... it's purely the situation. We were making mistakes together, and he is the one that paid for it... so sometimes I even feel guilty. But I do get very frustrated alot lately over the fact that I know he should be here, and he's not. I seem to get mad at people just b/c they are happy and I'm not. I know that sounds horrible, and it is... but I can't help it. It is hard when you are so used to someone being there, and just like that... they are gone. Luckily my husband is extremely supportive of me also, and would never make me feel guilty for not being able to send money, or whatever. My heart goes out to those of you that are having to deal with that. I have seen it happen with alot of my other friends from prison support sites as well. I think tryin2smile said it perfectly. Definitely make time for yourself, and really put things in persepective. I think these feelings are completely normal though.

i know what your feeling i often wonder who was the one that got in troble me or him i do feel like im the one who is being punished and i didnt do anything wronge