Families of Prisoners Support Group

I have my days when I just bust out and then there are other days I do not shed a tear. It is all part of the emotional healing. We have to be able to release those feelings in order to grow. We will always have those does when are spirits are low. So let the tears flow if you need to. It to me just shows them that they are truely missed.

I agree with Huskersky. I don't get calls b/c I am in texas, and there are no phones... but I know sometimes at visit I can't help but cry. I used to try and hold it in b/c I didn't want to upset my hubby... but they understand. This is not something that is easy to go through, and tears are a common thing unfortunately. Don't hold it in if you can't.... I'm sure he will be there to comfort you.

I have to try not to cry alot, to my man, cuz I know that it hurts him when I cry cuz i'm hurting cuz of something he did, Though I feel I hold some reponsibility for his being there cuz we both decided to leave AZ, and he can't fix it. Whenever something is upsetting me or whatever he is always trying to fix it, to make it better. He can't just get up and come home, so I try to keep my crying to him at a minimal although it still happens once a month at least!

When I feel like crying, I cry. I'm not going to pretend to be in good spirits if I"m not. He is the same. Whatever I"m going through I share with him too. I talk to him about it, makes him feel that in some way he's helping me a little, by just being a listener.

I have to agree with the majority,it is dishonest to fake it,they know we are hurting,they are hurting too.I believe it also lets them know we relly do care too.It is so hard to see our loned ones in this situation.I do not think they would rather we did not cry,they know we are hurting.My husband has been locked up for 5 years,you do eventually get a little stronger,but it never stops hurting.I still cry sometimes.At first I would apologize for it,but he just wanted to comfort me,help me.So donot hold it in,he may think you do not care any more.

Me and my guy both cry usually during either phone calls or visits. Now those past visits were through glass and that made it that much harder. Im sure once i get to visit him in person im gonna lose it. He told me not to hold things back around him about how im feeling cause that will just end up making it worse, and it shows him how much i care about him. So yea its really hard not to cry, and he may cry too making it even harder but its ok in the end because that helps you share that and deal with it somewhat together.