Families & Friends Of Addicts Support Group

I am going through the same thing but i am pregnant and our children stay with me. For now he has a car but not much longer and this week i decided to walk away. Hes mad at me and i get all the nasty messages the desperate messages and the sad messages but i had to do it for myself and my kids. Is there any way you can take temporary custody? Have you talked to anyone about the situation as far as a lawyer or someone at your local court house? It would be better for you to take the stand than to get Child services involved.

Struggling, I share your pain - my husband is a meth addict too. From my own experience, I can only tell you that you will not be able to help him, he is the only one that can do that, and only when he has lost enough that he has nowhere else to turn. What you can do right now is focus on you - how much are you willing to put up with before enough is enough? Consider getting to an Alanon meeting and keep going, this saved my life and gave me the strength to leave my husband and recognize that I was only enabling his addiction by what I thought was an attempt to help/fix him.

I understand that it would be hard to ask him to leave since he has custody of his kids, however, what kind of life is this for them? Where is their mother? Does he have other family members that could help? Do you have anyone that you could talk to about this to understand what options there are for you - like keeping them with you?

Hang in there and try to remember that you can't fix him, but you can make positive changes for you. ((hugs))

The mother of the children abandoned them when the youngest was three years old. The older one was ten years old. She has very little contact with them now. The only time she will interact with them is while she is between boyfriends.

I am currently in a similar situation.(My husband is an alcoholic). I posted on the advice board desperate for some advice but no one responded. I don't want that to happen to you. I'm not sure if my husband is drinking or not, but even if he's not he is still spending eveything he makes on who knows what. So even tho he's working he may as well not be because he contributes nothing to the household. we are behind on bills and our home needs major repairs. I just wanted you to know you are not alone and I am here for you.

Reading the posts reminds me of all the women (and some men) who are dealing with partners who are addicted to their drug of choice. Please know that the drugs are primary in their lives. Even though we love them, I do not believe that love cures addition, at least not in my case.
Those dear children may be taken away from you both due to the addiction. Seek help from: local YWCA, Salvation Army, St. Vincent de Paul, Women's Crisis line, Al Anon.
COURAGE.