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My daughters boyfriend committed suicide last thursday morning. I has been hell. What do I do to help her what should I exspect. He was a very troubled young man 19 yeas old. Bi polar and very insecure. My heart is broken for her him and all thier friends. I didnt know the family we had never met. I saw them at the wake last night but had no contact with them except for the father who was beyond completly intoxicated, it was pathetic.
Shannon is sleeping with his shirts she is barely eating or taking care of her self. She was strong last night though I was very proud of her strength and behavior taking care of others when her pain was so great all i could do was stand behind her and be their if she needed me. Help me help her and her friends. Posted on 05/13/08, 01:05 pm |
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Talk to her, to them, let them talk and cry to you if they need to. Make/get food, and offer it. I lost 13 pounds in 6 weeks when my guy died, but it passes, and you eat again. Let them know about DS, maybe this site will help your daughter too. Be there for her. Time heals. You don't need to know any "answers" to help. No one does. 
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talking is so helpfull,let her cry and vent if she needs to,believe me all i could do was cry and talk constantly about my sister ,sometimes its just having someone listen,maybe its all that she needs right now,it does get easier and we learn to live with our loss in time,so support her anyway you can with love and compassion.
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I agree with the others, just be there for her. She will need someone to listen to her no matter what and be able to cry. I have certain people that were there for me and still are, almost 2 yrs later. They were my rocks, and another help site like this literally saved my life, I was on the computer day in and day out, typing and typing to other people who understood. God bless all of you, Kelly
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That she is not eating is normal. The emtional pain dulls any hunger pain. Expect her to feel guilt - she should NOT feel guilty, but it will be there.
His parents are trying to escape the pain as well. That's why his father was intoxicated. Please do not feel less of him - he may or may not be able to cope right now. Your daughter may or may not want to talk to you. Let her know that you are available. If she is a "touchy" person, give her extra right now because she will be missing her boyfriend's touch. There are support groups out there. Find them for her and make them available. She may or may not want/need them. Don't expect her to talk right away. Some do, some do not.... I'm so sorry for her loss.
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Just be there for her and when she needs you listen and follow your heart. There is a group on here called Bereavement Mentors if you ever need to talk or if she would like to talk.
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Hi there sorry for your loss my other half took his life 7 weeks ago i couldnt eat or couldnt sleep i still cant sleep very well now i survive on about 4 hours i lost 14 pounds inside 2 weeks but what i do suggest to you is instead of offering to do something just do it for her as people were offering to do things for me and i would say no its ok i will do it where as if you just go ahead and do it it gets done and she will appreciate that cos i would have and i do wish i took people up on there offers but i thought i was just putting people out and if your there for her that will be what she needs she will go through the denial stage which is what i am coming out of now but i am crying alot more now than what i did as the reality has started to kick in that he really isnt coming back i just try and keep myself busy constantly thats what is keeping me sane i hope this has helped
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