Families & Friends of Gays & Lesbians Support Group

Don't bring it up by yourself, and when he brings it up don't act to awkward...it really depends on what he says.
If he gets a boyfriend or anything, just treat him like a daughter-meaning don't treat this boyfriend any different than you would treat your daughter's boyfriend [sorry, idk if you have a daughter or not]
If he just mentions something like a guy is hot, once again just go along with it, like he's your daughter. DON'T MAKE IT AWKWARD

it was probably really hard for him to tell you in the first place, don't make it any harder for him...put yourself in his shoes

let your son come out to you. he may feel threatend by you trying to out him. let him come out on his own when he feels the timing is right and let him know that you love him. My mother did not out me, I outed myself to her and she's fine with that. if he brings up 'the conversation' let him know that there are groups he can join and be conected to other people who are going through the same thing.

My 20yr old son is gay and since he came out I have had no problem with this issue at all. In the beginning I was worried because I did not want to see my son get hurt as society can be very cruel. I have accepted the person he is as my love for my son is unconditional. My son is the one that brings up the subject as now he has a partner and he asks me for advice. I have no problem in helping him out. His partner is 26 yrs old and now comes to our house for dinner, watch a dvd. As long as my son is happy that is fine with me. To answer your question in whats best for your relationship I would just let him come to you. I am sure you will receive him with open arms.

Honestly, i think if you have questions or concerns you should talk to him. Don't just sweep it under the rug. The more open and honest you are with him, the closer you will be. You are already doing the right thing by asking for help rather than shunning him. If you haven't already, you should definitely sit him down and tell him you accept him and his lifestyle and that you are there for him. When my stepmother (my mothers wife) came out to her family they shunned her and told her she was going to hell. From this she started binge drinking and alienated herself from her family. Gay children get really scared about reprucussions for this lifetyle that they can't help but have and when they have nowhere to turn, it makes the transition harder. If you are the rock for your son he will feel more at ease with his coming out. Hope this helps and feel free to message me anytime.

If you feel like you need to talk to him about it, bring it up easily. It depends really on how you feel about the situation. Does it bother you that he's gay? If it does, reaching out to him could still be helpful and maybe he could make you understand a little better. But be careful, if it bothers you a lot it'll be hard to be open-minded in a discussion with him. Understand this wasn't a choice to him. Good luck with everything!

as long as you remember he is YOUR son and he hasnt become some wierdo he is still the same. as long as you do that then he will feel in a safe place and loved. i suppose its more the mothers job to begin a conversation like that as its more the female figure that supports gay sons more. hope this helps :)

Like a bunch of people said dont be awkward about it hes still your son nothings really different except he lieks guys just make it clear to him that you still love him and that h can come to you no matter what the problem is i mean when i came out to my family they werent the least bit shocked and it made me feel good to know that i didnt change in there eyes so like i other peopel have said dont bring him out let him do it on his own and dont be hurt if he comes out to a friend or another family member ifrst it may just be harder for him to tell you so he dosent end up hurting you

As someone who has been married to a guy for years who then came out to say he was gay my advice would be to make sure he knows you love him no matter what! My situation is such a mess and could I think have been avoided if my stbx had had a more open relationship with his parents! Whether you write to him or talk face to face let him know it doesn't matter to you what his sexuality is, as long as he is honest with himself! I wish you all the luck in world xxx

dont bring it up, let him bring it up. unless you have a question or something, your input is just as valuable as his. dont go for a particular way of dealingf with it and dont purposely not ask questions you have or say things you think just becaus eyou are trying to not talk about it or that wilol get weird. if you got something to say then say it, if not just be normal and talk about other stuff.
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I'm Joy.I just found out last night through my son's myspace page that he is gay.I wish he would have told me himself.I think it would have been easier for me to hear coming from him.How did you handle it?