Empty Nests Support Group

Things keep getting worse them better.
After 10 months of yearning to see my grandson, we flew up tp my son's house who had a week visatation. From the start his new wife would not accept his son, our beautiful grandson who is only 4. She had no empathy that he was just uprooted from everyone he knows.
He was taken out of sate by his mother, my son never bonded with him, so as soon as he saw me he was at my side the whole time.My son asked us to leave his house( we had a hotel) he is now saying he never wants to let us see our grandson and is not going to use his visataion that was granted to him. He is almost 24 years old and has no family loyalty.
My husband and I spent the week with the child, but we never saw our son again, until we had to leave. He refuses to let us come up for his next visit, actually he isn't going to even take him for more then a week (he has 2 months worth of visiation in the summer)
We have had to hire a lawyer to sue our son! The Grandparents rights in the state the child lives is are very limited.
I bonded with this child. I cared for him in my home for 3 1/2 years, I know you all have heard it before, if you haven't, you can read my journal...long story.
I am heartbroken that after so much love, time, caring, money my son has turned his back on us, and his own child for a woman he has known less then a year!
My days are full of dread and heartache.
My daughter who is 21, is leaving in 10 days for Germany for 3 years (her husband is in the airforce)
I send gifts and letters to my ex-daughter in law for my grandson with no reply, ( actaully once she wrote and told me to stop sending "garbage" and send Money!)
I am in shatters, coping with empty nest one at time is hard enough, but we are losing everyone all at once.
We recently moved to Calif. for my husbands job. I have only one friend and she has a very nice sheltered life.. I know nothing is perfect but I am drowning in tears. I can't rely on her at all, she has a full life.
I had to give up so much to move here, it is so expensive, my dogs of 7 years, my cat, my gardening. my job, basically my comfor zone. I have nothing just sadness.
I love my kids, my extended family are rough, and it has been years since I have seen any of them.
I am trying counsling, trying to cope. I have tried several theapists, one actually told me "Well, they are not dead you know!"
I tried to keep busy, I joined a church, but lately, the past few weeks I find no comfort in church and have no will do go out.
NO joy in my life.
I love my husband, but our sadness is coming between us, and I fear we will not make it. We both feel guilty about past choices and mistakes.
It is a very hard time, people say "this too shall pass" but I have no hope.
To sue your own child, just to see your own grandson. There is nothing but love we have given, no grounds for keeping the child out of our arms.It is emotiaonal balckmail.
When mom left, I took over with all care, tried to get my son on track, back to college, but he chose drugs and his friends over his son.
I should have filed for grandparents rights then, I have waited too long.
Sorry, maybe this should have been put in my journal.
I really have nothing to hold on to. People say get out, volunteer, get a hobby...I feel so depressed and beat.
Thank you for listening ~
Posted on 03/29/08, 12:03 pm