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I still have the almost uncontrollable urge to buy our (3) grown daughters little things like chocolate easter rabbits, and other things around the holidays. I know that they are all professional women with their own lives (oldest will be 29, youngest is 25). But when the holidays come around, like Easter, Christmas, Valentines Day, etc., and I see the things that I used to get for them many years ago, my life would just feel so empty if I didn't still do it. When "logic" kicks in, I tell myself that I have to let it go, but logic gets trumped by memories of a time long ago. They dont' seem to mind (and they do gobble down the treats!), but I often wonder if they would prefer that I stop, and are just too uncomfortable to say anything. Does anyone else still buy things like chocolate rabbits for their grown kids? Unfortunately, there are no grandkids . . . yet. But I overheard a conversation about the possibility being soon . . .
Posted on 03/12/08, 07:03 pm
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Reply #1 - 03/12/08  10:56pm
" I still do that for my girls. They expect it. And I have to laught. They all still believe in Santa, (wink, wink), or they know they won't get presents. My oldest is 35 and my youngest is 27 and they still love to get little treats and surprises. I don't think it is weird and if you want to do that..then do that. I enjoy doing for my grown children, even if it is buying a chocolate bunnie at easter. Blessings...missourigal "
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Reply #2 - 03/12/08  11:34pm
" Friend, your post made me smile. My sons are 34 and 30, one is married, one is not. I still buy them small Easter baskets (I put a little one together cuz I know what they like) and with the married one, I include his wife. I just can't bring myself to ignore them on these holidays, I mean, do you ever really get too old to accept special loving gifts from your parent? And as a daughter of a very loving and considerate father, I have to tell you that I would never get tired of my dad's thoughtfulness, I rellished it. He's gone now, and I miss it every Valentine's Day, Sweetest Day, Birthday, and ...you get the picture..? Don't stop, they love you for it. "
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Reply #3 - 03/13/08  8:25am
" i think that is the swetest thing i have ever herd
no don't stop doing what you do you are very special
i bet deep down they still look for you to do that i know i love the little things my daddy does and i am 46 so don't stop doing that a girl always needs her daddy!!!have a good day
kim "
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Reply #4 - 04/09/08  1:09am
" I still do that and expect to when I am 90! You are a good guy to buy the girls choco rabbitts, they will never forget it. They may not appreciate it now, but they WILL remember it later. "
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Reply #5 - 04/11/08  8:07am
" Hi,

I know how your feel my boys are 22 and 24 this easter was the first time I ket logic rule and did not get them anything, it was so hard for me, but I THOUGHT it was the right thing to do until my eldest came to visit me and afer being in the house about 15min he asked where his egg was. when i said I thought he was getting to old he said I will always be his mum and it is a mum thing to do, so we ended going out and getting him and his brother an egg. "
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Reply #6 - 04/13/08  9:28pm
" I think that's a lovely thing to do and I'm sure they get just as much enjoyment out of it as you do. "
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Reply #7 - 04/26/08  4:18pm
" My mother always did little thoughtful things throughout my life. They meant a lot to me and she has been gone for 19 + years now. I try to do the same things for my children who are grown. Go ahead. Kindness never hurts. "
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Reply #8 - 04/26/08  5:52pm
" Absolutely! I think that the girls would be disappointed if I didn't. My 23 year old still loves those marshmallow peeps (yuk) and old fashion peppermint sticks they sell at Christmas. The youngest (19) likes to get the Pez dispensers and candy. We all love the malted Easter eggs - but for some reason they never last until Easter. "
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Reply #9 - 05/04/08  9:09am
" What a thoughtful person you are. It's hard to draw away from the ones you love, just these little memories keep them still your children. I do the same, although my sons are younger and still at home, and they look for it.
I did not get my 21 year old
son an Easter egg this year, as I thought it was time to stop. He was not a happy bunny. I think, although they are older, they still think of themselves as your little girls, and you likewise. I will do as you are doing until I am told by my boys otherwise, it's our little treat to ourself. Lv B x "
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Reply #10 - 05/07/08  4:04pm
" I think thats a wonderful thing to do!! I know at 40 I still love when my parents surprise me with a "little" something. "
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