Empty Nests Support Group

I can tell you what to do, and I really need to take my own advice because I too am very lonley. We are suppose to join a group! Maybe something at your church, or gym or something. We are suppose to find somthing that makes us happy. I got a dog back in November, but he can't take the place of my girls.

I can't speak for anyone else.Every day that I was without my kids,I think I died a little inside.I wasn't an abusive parent or did anything to cause them to be taken from me...it was all about finances with my ex. I grieved,just like I was mourning,and it was difficult to get out of bed in the morning,but I knew that I had to pull it together and get my health well enough that I could walk and be able to support them.
You need to try and focus your energy on projects that give you some feeling of satisfaction.Keeping busy,planting a garden,crocheting a blanket when you are home and reaching out to others.I volunteered at my local senior center/food bank and gave back to the community,kept busy and didn't dwell.I think Lela has a great bit of advice...by joining a church or gym,you are socializing,doing something to help you and giving you something else to focus on.Hugs to you both!

"How do you get through the day without hearing from your kids.
I look to my husbnand for comfort, he has nothing to give. Iknow he misses the kids too, but hehas better coping skills then me.
I wish he knew the heartache I am in, he see's it, but doesn't acknowledge it."

Maybe he doesn't know how to cope with this either; tell him how you feel. At the least you'll be vocalizing your worries, loneliness and heartaches? Talking; saying it out loud; in it's self helps a little.

How do you all cope?


"This year has been one of holidays spent without the family, for dif reasons."

Memories and great times can happen any day of the year.

"It is taking it's toll on my daily life, I can't seem to let go, or move on with my life"

Sometimes it is as easy as picking up the phone - make the first move. Call your children,just to say "hi, how are you". Invite them to lunch at a local diner, dinner at your place, shopping, whatever...

Do something that you like at least once a week, just because you deserve it.

Soak in a hot bath
Join the gym
Sign up for a class.
Reconnect with an old friend.
Volunteer

If I had an answer, I would gladly give you it, but I don't .. sorry. I just hope you get through your sorrow, life is just not fair at times. Take care of yourself, please xx