Eating Disorders Support Group

One thing you should know, hun, is that once you get started either starving or purging, it's nearly impossible to stop. Once the eating disorder gets it's talons into your brain, you won't be able to stop. You won't even be able to know that you should stop at a certain weight. No weight will be low enough for you once the eating disorder is in control. The eating disorder takes over your thoughts, it fills and consumes your mind, it controls your behavior, it distorts your thinking, and it takes up a tremendous amount of time. I've been bulimic for 20+ years, and I wish to God I had never started. An eating disorder is like a cocaine addiction; once you start, you cannot control it, it controls you. You don't want to live that way. Talk to a nutritionist, or a therapist. There are safe ways to lose weight. Hug.

You don't want to go below a size 14 but in the same second you say you want to see your ribs. So what you really want is to be extremely skinny and the ways to get there that you mention will kill you in the end because once you start this ED behavior you can't stop and will tell yourself, just a little longer. Is that what you want? It will take away your health, your happiness and eventually your life. It's not worth it .Go see a nutritionist to help you with a mealplan that makes you lose weight in a healthy way.

karrin, no no, i said I'm NOT going to get to the point where I can see my ribs.

and I've already been to a nutritionist.. followed their plan, stopped eating all the things they told me too. Hell, i did the rawist thing (where you eat only raw fruit, veggies, beans, seeds, and nuts) for an entire month. I'm vegetarian and I stay away from a lot of bad foods, such as foods with HFCS, soda, chips, greasy food, etc. I eat so much better than most thin people but it doesn't do anything for my weight.

this makes me soo sad.. why would anyone want to have an eating disorder??? It takes over your mind and your life, you cant control it, and all you end up is sick...
I wish I didnt have an eating disorder, i try hard everyday to not let it rule me, but it does.. and its not even about weight..
why would someone WANT this???

Listen to Karrin she knows what she is talking about! i only wanted to be a size 14 then well if i can make a size 14 why not a size 12??? then i was pretty much the same size as my sister (6 years younger than me!) then i was smaller than her. Its like you get the new toy/gadget (whatever) and your so proud of it but you soon realise that there is a newer better model/size and if you work just a bit harder you could have it. It becomes an addiction. it takes over your mind and negative thoughts start to become possitive thoughts. your already asking whats so bad about it. you dont have to be thin to have an eating disorder its not being thin that kills you its what it does to your body that kills you. take this to you gp and see if they can suggest anything.

You sound like me. Except now that I have thrown up, I don't want to stop and I always felt sick. I'm a lot better but I still relapse once in awhile. But I'm sorry to say that you are trying to convince yourself that it won't hurt you when it will. This frustrates me a little..

In 2002 I was over 350 pounds and was diagnosed with diabetes. My eyes had gone blurry and it was the diabetes causing it. I felt totally out of control with my eating, I had been isolating, making promises to myself that I would change only to binge again and be totally demoralized, my life had come down to being a work-a-holic and then binging from the time I got off work (if not during) until I fell alseep. I had no friends. No hope. So what was my solution? And what am I like now? Well I can tell you I've lost over 170 pounds. I have had perfect blood work and no medication for the diabetes for a few years now. I have relationships, I'm married, I'm alive, and I feel healthy most of the time. I put myself into a 12-step recovery program because I felt I had an addiction to food and sugar. I recovered. If your interested in recovery... check it out and see if it might be for you...
http://www.oa.org/index.htm

And a word to the wise...barfing up your food can cause serious medical problems as well as psychological and starving yourself can turn you anorexic whether your thin or not.

Eating Disorders are not something that only happen to "thin" people.

Your life doesn't have to be this way! There are other choices and solutions. It isn't easy but it is simple!

Please don't begin starving or purging. it becomes an addiction and you can't just stop. Also. starving actually slows your metabolism so it ends up storing what little you do eat as fat. purging is great stress on your heart and can cause a heart attack. I struggle from one end to the other. anorexia to binge eating and I am giving Overeaters anonymous a try and it is working so far. It is exactly like AA but it is for people with all types of eating issues. it is working the 12 steps a design for living. one day at a time. what I can do for one day, I cannot do for a lifetime. big hugs for you you can message me if you want to talk more about if you are interested. Please. any food issue is serious and you do belong here. asking for help is a big step. so know that that is courageous and you have the chance to arrest anything before such behaviors cause so many health problems. This is just a reply but I would tell you my story sometime. I struggle. but I am making so far right now one day at a time. I have not binged. and I have eaten three meals a day for 6 days now. I wish you the best of luck.

dancer.. have you ever been fat? have you had people throw food at you? throw BRICKS at you? Ask you out just to laugh at you and oink at you while you're in the lunch line? Maybe it's not about weight for you.. but it is for me.

I don't want to have an eating disorder.. it's not an eating disorder unless it gets out of control. I can control it.

i've already done everything else- joined a gym, did their diet, saw a nutritionist, went to the doctor's, tried the pills.. everything. In 10th grade i stopped eating for two weeks and lost 20lbs. it's the only time in my life i've been able to lose weight.

faith, i'll take a look at that site.

It might be tempting but once you start you will never be able to stop only if you are lucky you will be able to forget this was ever a part of your life. It takes a scary grip and hold of things that you could never imagine and it becomes the most important thing in your life but also the thing you despise most of all. When i started being sixk i was in tears in joy but now i swear to god it has been the thing i most regret teaching myself because its something i just cant get out of.