Diabetes Type 1 Support Group

Hi and welcome to the group

It is very hard to know what to say. Some diabetics are very sensitive to other people talking to them about their condition. It can feel like the people are trying to boss them about even though that is not how it is meant at all. But it can seem like everyone is saying 'are you allowed to eat that? have you done your injection? what is your blood sugar?' and nagging you all the time. So it is probably best to stay out of the area of what he should do and just try to be loving and supportive. Many diabetics go through a period of denial which can last years. I did. We need to find our own way through this and learn to deal with their diabetes on our own terms. Diabetes is a scary condition but as long as you eat healthily and exercise and go to regular medical checks nothing should go too wrong. I think the most important thing is education. Real life is not predictable so we need to be able to change our insulin dosage and control our carb intake and feel confident doing this and in dealing with highs and lows, exercise, meals out, and other stuff that life throws at us. There are education courses available and it helped me to go on one. But that is something for the future. If he is sensitive and depressed about his diabetes right now, maybe it is best not to press the issue. But it is hard since maybe the course would be what might help him become more comfortable with his condition by meeting other diabetics and seeing he is not alone. Or perhaps he could join an online community like this.

I hope this helps.

direct him to a support group. He will need help if he is having a hard time. Bring him here?? Or suggest a support group through his local hospital or docs. office. There has to be one around his home town.

Thanks for the suggestions :] i'm thinking about inviting him here!

I don't boss him around with it, i don't know enough about it! but i get what you mean about how i might come across as being annoying if i talked in that manner.
So... i'll try to keep in mind not to be too bossy about it.

Well, you could try eating and living like a diabetic, just to see what its like. There are places you can go where you can een try out testing your blood sugars and taking shots if youre not too scared. That could give you some insight on what he must be feelin. Thats what I did for my twin sis years before I was diagnosed.

Just talk to him about anything that would get his mind off this and he would stop worrying about it all the time.

: :) ty for the advice everyone

SO how is he doing?

Ok i think... he's gone back to not talking to me.