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Just over a year ago my husband and I had a wee boy who was stillborn, since then we have had a healthy wee girl. When she was born my husband lost the plot (for lack of a better description. He was abusive, suicidal, panicky and very self-centred. He has since been diagnosed with depression and is on medication that seems to be helping along with some counselling. Now that I look back I think that maybe he had been slowly becoming depressed after our son died and I was so caught up with my own emotions and the high-risk status of the next pregnancy that I did not notice. I do think that our daughter being born triggered a lot of the depression.
Has anyone else had any experience with men (yourself or partner) becoming depressed after the birth of a child? I'd just like to know how things went for you and if there is anything I can do more to support him. Honestly, some days I am at breaking point with his moods and am doing my best just to try to provide a happy environment for my daughter to grow up in. Maybe if I knew how he felt I might feel a bit less angry and frustrated. It's hard when everyone relies on you and I can see why a lot of supporters of people with depression end up depressed themselves! Posted on 07/19/08, 03:07 am |
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My husband completely shut down for quite a long time after BOTH of our childrens births.
He became angry, self consumed, paranoid. He has what's called "Adjustment Disorder" where he cannot deal with lifes milestones or stressors. 
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Maybe I should look that up. Now I think about he hasn't dealt with things like moving house or changing jobs well either. Thanks
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Hi Mamaamie, my husband went into his first depression right after we had the ultrasound with my second child and found out it was a boy (my 1st child was a girl). My husband's therapist told him she sees this all the time and that he recognized himself as the male child and couldn't cope. She said something about his own childhood he found so distessing that he felt he didn't know how to raise a son. Apparently, this happens all the time.
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