Depression Supporters Support Group

so sorry your all going through so much. All I can say that hes not getting over the fact that he is disabled and lost his dream. He seriously needs to stop living in the past, its killing him and his family. He has to except the fact he was chosen another "path". I can tell you pills aren't the answer or help. He is in a deep depression and a wake up call is only going to help. If this helps have him write down his feeling. If he rather talk then do that. And you can write down yours as a letter to him if he is so far past listening. I would make it a sorry letter. Start of with I'm sorry you lost your dream, sorry you got injured, so on. Then put how it has effected you all. Things will hit home for him. I would leave him alone when you give it to him. I wrote a letter to my H about his cheating, left it in the closet, left for shopping and called him to go get it and read it. Much easier. good luck let me know how it worked.

My neighbor has sort of the same prob. Hes hurt his ankle for life and couldn't get his dream job for football. It obviously wasn't meant to be.

It is very sad what you are going through, my husband is depressed as well and there is no easy answer, in fact I haven't found any answers yet. Just try and hold on for as long as you can. Obviously we don't know exactly what he is going through and will never but he needs help that it sounds like he is getting. When they are that depressed they lose themselves. Medications do take a long time to kick in but you might have to try more than one, they don't work the same on everyone. Not only that but he needs counseling along with the medication. Kicking him out will only hurt him more, not motivate him. I go to counseling as well for my depression but lately it's been more to deal with my husband and it has helped me get through some pretty rough times. Maybe you should go too or suggest doing it together? Good luck, my thoughts are with you.

there is a lot of research to prove that depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain....it certainly doesnt help if the environment is depressing to...he is faced with his failures as a provider everyday and when you are really depressed the only person you can deal with is you....he needs an advocate to go to the dr and request a newer anti-depressant in a moderate dose to knock those unbalanced chemicals for a loop and it shouldn't take more than three weeks for you to see whether they are helping...i stayed on wellburton for six monthes waiting to stop being suicidal everyday....no matter how i acted on the outside inside i was walking a death march...then the dr. tried effexor and wham my depression lifted and i could see colors and feel feelings other than regret and sadness and had my energy and hope back....i feel more normal on effexor than anything else and nothing remarkable has improved in my living conditions...i am still poor and on ssi but i am aware and alive now...i hope this for you and your husband...because to live with someone depressed makes you depressed also ...you both need a counselor to let you get it all out then go to marriage counseling telling them that the goal is healing your marriage......take care and wishing you the best of outcomes

The initial dose of prozac that my husband was on did nothing, in fact he was worse. After 2 months ended up calling in help. He is now on double the dose. He also takes another medication for when he starts to "lose the plot". Maybe your husbands meds need reviewing, I'm sure the doctor said they kicked in after 2-4 weeks so they should have shown some effect.
Good luck, I know how you feel. I hope you have somebody there supporting you.

I guess I don't have to tell you alcohol and anti-depressants don't mix. You are right, kicking him out will only escalate things.

I know it's hard to look at the unfinished house, but if you can, put aside. Since you are a spouse, I think you can talk to his doctor on your own about what he's going through. I would make sure he is getting counseling and that the two of you are getting counseling as a couple.

Is there any way your husband can take a leave of absence from his work so he can focus solely on getting better?