Depression Supporters Support Group

It's very hard for others to understand depression, most things that happen in life are physical ( you can see what is wrong ) but there's no sign for depression, there's also a lack of understanding too. It's crippling when you can't control it, I know I still feel bad at times. The main thing you can do is to sit calmly and write what you feel, then give them what you've wrote. Try to do this as calmly as you can and ask them why? why are they being like this? If you broke your leg they would sympathise and support you, and this is no different. Stand up for yourself and say this isn't the person you want to be. You have to reach deep down inside yourself for strength, it's there. I wish you all the luck in the world, and if they wont listen then I will, ok? Take care of YOU for a change. Hugs.

/agree with tone.

Things like this, if not directly experienced or at least very close to someone that has had it for a long time, are very hard for others to understand and accept. If ya broke yer leg for example, they could easily look down and limp on their own leg or try to move without standing on it and easily relate. Things like this however, if they look outside, see a sunny day, they just can't see how anyone else would see it a bit cloudy maybe. It's the personal perspective that gets in the way of understanding, not that they don't care.

Sometimes though understanding isn't even necessary, just acceptance. If they're willing to stand by you, help you in ways that you ask for, and just be there to see ya through this then that might be enough. My daughter is still little enough where she can try to talk about things without getting it out exactly right. I sometimes don't have a clue what she's asking for or talking about at first, but I always listen and after a while hopefully understand as well. It's a matter of caring for each other and providing the one's we love with what they need, whether we understand completely or not.

-Gil

thank you both, it is so hard to get them to see that i dont want to be like this n that i hate it but shouting at me is not going to help ...

You could try explaining your condition through metaphors like:

'Trying to dig yourself out of quicksand the deeper in you go'
'Being in a long dark tunnel where you can't see th light'

Try explain things too them in ways they relate to like their hest friend just died and people are telling them to 'snap out of it'

Finally and most importantly let them know that the more they shout at you the less effectively you will function.

If all else fails then this should hit the spot.

'I can't believe that absolute strangers are prepared to support me and you my parents can only treat me like shit.'

thank u hun... ill see wot i can do... like the last one, made me giggle but is so true..hugs

I have a hard time trying to tell my parents anyting. I found it most easy to write a letter. have you tried that? If you live w/, give one of them the letter (the one your closest to) and leave for awhile. good luck

Oh god, I sympathize iwth you. My dad is the same way. Fortunately I dont live with him. I dont see how he can finish medical school and still not be smart enough to see that shouting and yelling at me and making me feel like a horrible person is not doing any good. I agree with tonelove, writing it down is a calm, peaceful way to say to them that somethings wrong. Maybe by reaching out like this they will finally see that you want help and that they as an obligation of a parent should do all they can to help you when youre suffering.

Maybe currently in tears over fact I have to go back to them day after tomorrow

tell them hurtful things like you wish you were never born. thats what i would do

I had the same problem with my parents, 12 yrs ago. My therapist sent me for some testing (written, drawing, talking etc.) to a psychologist who did just that. I got the results and took my parents in to listen to them with me. It really helped them to hear it from someone else that I had a problem I was trying to deal with and they made more of an effort to understand. If you have someone who could talk to them that everyone trusts it might work.