Depression Supporters Support Group

Hi, I was once married to a person with addiction problems. I recommend Alanon, which will also help you deal with his depression issues as well. Its important to try to not get pulled down to the point that you can no longer cope either.

If you click on my profile, I have some journal posts with coping techniques I use to this day (almost 20 years later) that I learned in Alanon.

I dont know if there is a supporters of addicts board here... but there might be.

I have a boyfriend who suffers from depression,he seems to have it in cycles,the last time he went into a real bad low,he started having an affair,at the moment we're doing well,he's still having his lows but not as severe,he does however withdraw from me and the kids,sometimes it's days sometimes it's weeks.This breaks my heart for the children who are to young to understand why daddy is gone,but also for my partner,because i know him better then he does and i know how much he needs us he just can't.I know they need to help themselves but sometimes we may need to help them help themselves,it got to a point with my BF that i just had to ring and make the appointment and go to his house and tell him to get in the car and took him there,by this time he could barley function i don't have to deal with the problem with addiction that you also have to deal with and my heart really goes out to you.Kristinesmum is absolutely right in saying don't get pulled down,you also need to worry about you,if you need to chat i'm here

I have a similar situation with my wife. She has almost completely withdrawn from me as a partner, lover, and even friend. This has been going on for a few months now and I keep seeing little glimmers that give me hope and keep me supporting her and hoping for the best. You are right in saying how hard it is to watch someone you are so close to and know so well undergo such a transformation. I guess my advice if I am aloud to give any is that it is time to move on when you no longer get those little insights. You know those moments that make you want to hold on. I relate it to the game of golf. When people start out golfing they are usually pretty horrible. It is a very frustrating game. People keep going back and beating themselves up though. Why? Well, it is because everytime you go out on the course, you have that one shot, that one swing that makes you feel like everything went right and there is hope for improvement. When the game stops giving you that one swing, or shot, it is time to hang up the clubs. That's my advice.

My husband has completely withdrawn from me too. We've been married for almost 8 years and just out of the blue, this all came about. I'm in the same situation. I want to leave but I want him to know that I am there for him. I really don't know what to do either. How long do I wait around? This is making me physically and emotionally sick. Has anything gotten better since you posted this?

My husband and I have also been separated since October after 12 years of marriage. He suffers from all of the symptoms of Depression but has never been officially diagnosed because he insists that nothing is wrong with him. About a year ago he began to completely withdraw from our relationship and then had an affair which was completely out of character. Since then he has become a totally different person with some glimpses of his old self once in a while.
I can completely relate to you, Baily, and what you are going through. I, too, feel helpless because I see him getting worse and he won't help himself. I keep wondering how long I should wait for him, too.

My bf has depressive cycles that are approx 1 time a month for 3-4 days. Last year, he went off the deep end and left me for 7 months. He was on Lexapro at the time and it just wasn't helping at all. The only thing that I can do when he gets like this is just to wait it out. I think the thing that helped me most is when I realized that his depression had nothing to do with me and I didn't have to be depressed just cause he is. When he has an episode, I detatch from his moods and I go do something else with a friend. There are many times that I wanted him to just leave and never come back cause I just couldn't deal with his moods. But, I'm glad that I didn't. Cause when he's not depressed, he's the most kind and loving person that I have ever met. I just had to accept that depression is a part of his character and life and this is who he is. And I'm OK with that now...

If you need someone to talk with, just let me know.

May God bless you and keep you in perfect peace. Here are some encouraging bible verses to uplift you. Remember, faith moves mountains and you can get through anything in the name of Jesus.

Matthew 11: 28-30

*"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."

John 14:27
Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. *Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.

Psalm 46: 1-2
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea

Joshua 1:9
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go."

May God bless you and keep you in perfect peace. Here are some encouraging healing bible verses to uplift you. Remember, faith moves mountains and you can get through anything in the name of Jesus.

Exodus 23:25
And ye shall serve the LORD your God, and he shall bless thy bread, and thy water; and I will take sickness away from the midst of thee.

Psalm 103:3-4
Who forgiveth all thine iniquities; who healeth all thy diseases; Who redeemeth thy life from destruction; who crowneth thee with lovingkindness and tender mercies.

Matthew 4:23
And Jesus went about all Galilee, teaching in their synagogues, and preaching the gospel of the kingdom, and healing all manner of sickness and all manner of disease among the people.

Matthew 8:14-17
And when Jesus was come into Peter's house, he saw his wife's mother laid, and sick of a fever. And he touched her hand, and the fever left her: and she arose, and ministered unto them. When the even was come, they brought unto him many that were possessed with devils: and he cast out the spirits with his word, and healed all that were sick: That it might be fulfilled which was spoken by Esaias the prophet, saying, Himself took our infirmities, and bare our sicknesses.

My husband and I have both been through the ringer w/ depression. And over the last several years, he really detached himself from me & the family, and it was heartbreaking to see this other side of him.. and visa versa..
If you can, please just hang in there, and I know this is not easy at all.. i mean, us girls need our husbands.. but sometimes unfortunately, we have to wait for things to hit bottom, before the healing begins.. The waiting, is hard, but do for him, what you would want him to do for you, being in the same situation. Please also, take care of yourself, and dont let too much of that resentment build as well, because it will destroy you.
and cause irrational choices to be made.. when all you want is for everything to be okay again, and to love that person the way you always have, forever & always..