Depression Support Group

Thank you, Baz.
It is a good point about trying to find something/anything in our lives that have some importance to us. It's not an easy thing to do, especially if we are so depressed we don't want to get out of bed...times like that I try and be grateful for the darn bed.
This is a phrase I've heard several times over the years;
"Let us love you until you can love yourself."
Sometimes I thought those people were stupid for loving me, but it was all I had to hang on to for awhile.
Little things can bring big results...JMO
Belle

people need to think of others before they consider suicide. If there that bad. they need to go to the hospital. good post

I agree that we need to find even the smallest thing to feel grateful for. I mentally make a list of the people I would hurt if I were to end my life. Having tried it and survived I think back to the horror I caused. And still I find myself walking down that route. I was going to write a whole heap of other stuff but I think I'm a bit chicken. Yes let other people love you, isn't that one of the hardest things though?

Yeah, letting others love us is very hard when we feel un-lovable among other things.
For me, it was desperation that initially made me hear their offer. In time, though, I was able to understand that they did love me...
I obviously survived my last suicide attempt. My last thoughts before entering that nothingness was, "I want to live." I just didn't want to live the way I had been living.
It was difficult making those changes so I would have more peace.
It was also an absolute shocker to me to realize what it meant to those that loved me. At the time, I was aware only of my pain...
JMO, but I don't think those thoughts of suicide ever completely leave us. So we learn how to handle them/deflect them/get help and do our best to stay on an even keel.
I think that any given moment we are doing the best we can...
This is something I have taped to my computer;
"I can handle anything life throws at me. I may not be able to handle it well, or correctly or gracefully, or even with finesse or expediently...
*****But I Will Handle It."*****
Those words reassure me that I do not have to be perfect, but I do need to be willing.

So when people think about killing themself, just stop - think of who you would hurt and think" would it hurt you if they done that to you. and yes it would hurt, because everyone has that smoeone that they care about. and lots of people on this site would care, mostly your friends.

This is good that we understand that we need to be honest in different ways--go to the ER if needed, and realize that we do indeed have ones whom we love and they love us back. If that's what keeps us hanging on for awhile, that's fine. It's a good starting place on getting on the path to peace.
I thank you, Baz, for posting this as it's given me alot to think about...
Peace!
Belle

When I went into the hospital after trying to commit suicide, i remember something my parents said to me....

After all of the initial crying and once the crisis was mostly over, my Dad told me that had I succeeded or if i ever tried it again he would be so pissed off at me. Sounds odd I know but he said he would be so mad that I had stolen myself away from those who love me.

When we feel we have nothing left to live for, sometimes all we need to do is look around!

Great post!

so you won't off yourself because someone will be mad at you?!? a so called friend told me that too... i replied it aint about you.... so why would i care about your feelings if i don't have a care for myself?!?!

I agree that most people do have family, friends and support, I am sure that everyone has thought about killing themselves at some point in their lives. It is not reasonable to think that someone could go through life and not experience horrible loss, grief, saddness and frustration, stress. This world is not the easist place to live. We in the US do have it much better than people in 3rd world countries that dont have anything in a material sense, but they have family. When I think of the millions of children orphanned by Aids in Africa, I feel like my problems are not that bad, or at least that I can handle them. It also seems that if I stop thinking about myself so much and go out and help others, I feel so much better. It doesnt even make sense that it would help, but it does. I took all my nephews toys up to the pediatric cancer ward at the Plano hospital and handed them out to the little kids there dying, I cried from joy when I saw how happy it made them. I guess what I am saying is I agree, if you look you can find happiness

the people that say it alot may not have someone though. you shouldnt just go off the thought that they do.