Depression Support Group

SadRose ~ I'm no scholar or a therapist, but with heartfelt wishes and the very best intentions, would offer the following for your consideration.

Prior to 18, your life was ruled by your parents and there are times when our needs are simply and sadly not met. At 18, your life is now yours and perhaps it is time to give yourself the love and care that you have longed for.

Here's a story that helped me focus ...

ONE evening, and old Cherokee told his grandson about the eternal battle that goes on inside people.

He said, My boy, the battle is between two wolves inside us all.

One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority and ego.

The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, tolerance, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.

The boy thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, Which wolf wins?

The old Cherokee replied, The one you feed.

This is my favorite quote and it helped me to move forward to my brightness ...

Our worst fear is not that we are inadequate, our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? Nelson Mandela

Best wishes to you ... I BELIEVE IN YOU ... YOU can do anything you set your mind to do! You are stronger than you know ...

Gentle hugsss ... Ranae

Ranae really said it there. I have made it through some very hard times by doing the next right thing...one at a time.

Thank you for the replyes guys
That is a very nice story/quote heargirl thanks for sharing it :),But Its so hard to make a decision for yourself when I never seen a strong person faced them,sort of like a rolemodel in my life...And all the putdowns my stepdad has told me trhu the past years have really affected me,I dont have seftsteema always questioning myself and panicking such horrible feelings :(,Who would of though a few years ago I didnt care about nothing and had so much selfsteem and loved how I looked,not no more.Those are some mayor reasons that are holding me back and cant seem to be able to deal with them.And I have 2 sisters(a 10&1) that I care for even If I show it in a very complex way..And wouldnt like them to get hurt by all of this..I cant believe my 10 year old sis told me what if she becomes me?Like how Im feeling..She has seen how her dad treats me and it hurts her.I just cant believe my mom wouldnt take action and separate from him Man its so hard to deal with her choosing that man over her own daughter,It seems like she has chossen him over me...

Maybe talk to your mom alone at first and ask this lady that visited you at your house to get you information on a doctor that will help you with your current immediate problems. You need to stay strong...realise that you will need to take charge of your life very soon..part of growing up...confusing and scarey...i will say a prayer for you good luck

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((Hugs))
Ranae

From your post, being where you are now is unhealthy for you. An abusive step father may be the cause of ALL your emotional problems. I think your counselor is right on with what she said. As a minor, you are guarenteed some welfare protection, .. as an adult, you have to find your own. Thank God for the transition "house" you mentioned. I think you would benefit by going there. You might want to look at it as if a hurricane destroyed your regular home and you are going where you can to continue living. It may not be exactly what you want or what you left, but it is an option better than nothing. To me, it is a lot better for an 18 yo to have it and all their organization to help one get started in the adult life. It does not sound like step dad or Mom has given you much of that. Home right now, though screwed up a bit, is a comfort zone, and hard to give up, but your time is coming, and you need all the advantage you can get, and I think the transition house is a God send. Go with an open mind and a sense of gratitude that you have the option. Very best of luck to you.

As you already know its all up to you, it's your choice whether you want to leave or not, but the living situation you seem be in appears a little toxic for you. I never had a good relationship with my father or mother, and I still don't, but leaving the house changed me. I didnt want to leave and it felt so scary too, my room was my sanctuary, and now I dont have that, but it freed me. Making the step helped me break out my depression, not completely but minorly enough to help.

My advice is look at all your options, bet a notebook and write down in it the pros and cons of leaving, your feelings, your options, your goals. It helps me to see it infront of me and to let all the emotions flow out through the pen.

Sorry you guys I hadn't replied I been feeling mest up and had a Big fight with my stepdad yesterday.I think hes affecting me even more right now,cause he uses god to unblame him from everything he has done to me and my mom.He went "christian" or whatever religious his hypocrite azz joined,because he saw he was zhit He has fallen asleep in the car on the winter but some cops that were walking saw him and rescue him..Hes a lucky bastard,What wouldnt I give for noone to see hes drunk azz that day..Im sorry but thats how I feel about him and noone can change it.He thinks that hearing christian music everyday its gonna make him a better person while his telling me I have the devil in me(cause Im depress,and am like this)Arent people in religion not suppose to judge a person that it's down?Shows how little he knows about it,He acts like his making fun of that religion his possing to be in,And says anything about it with a big false attitude and smirk on his face...and he knows that that gets me mad because he says I needa see the light,Even now that "His a change man"(hes been in that religion for 3 weeks..)He talks like his above everyone and thinks his save from judgement day and going to heaven.What a blind madafuker he is.

Maybe talk to your mom alone at first and ask this lady that visited you at your house to get you information on a doctor that will help you with your current immediate problems. You need to stay strong...realise that you will need to take charge of your life very soon..part of growing up...confusing and scarey...i will say a prayer for you good luck

TrishBug Yesterday while I was arguing with my stepdad I told everything about how he has cheated on my mom with a friend I had Mom while she was in Mexico burying my grandma.And I also told him about how he took all his family to some puertorican women he was seeying on my mom s back and he moved with her was showing her place off to his family telling them how she had a computer and how pretty her house was,While my mom was working and me and his daughter was in the house without knowing that was going on.But then he didnt like that she had rules to her house and one of them was not to go out of the weekend and get wasted and he didnt like them so his ratty azz came everyday after work to beg my mom to get back in the house and little by little he brong his stuff back.I told that to her face and wanted her to give me a reason how she could take all of that and make it seem like nothing happen,And my Mom sayd that she's just like her Mom.She always blames how her attitude is on her "being life her mom" Because my grandma was very soft spoken and never stood up for herself,And my mom blames it on her how she acts.She's very wrong and doesnt see how good women she is for my stepdad everyone tells her that even my stepdad family,But she is scare too I guess to be alone all she says when I tell her why not leave me her and my other 2 sisters,Shes like I dont wanna have more kids with other men...That tells you alot about how her thoughs are...She doesnt think she deserves better and Better Man if she finds one And I bet she can...But I dont think she has the courage either to make that Big decision I'm going to tell the couselor women to help her understand that she isnt tied to that fool tyll death and could get a better life with us,She always tells him when we get in a fight that she'll choose her kids anyday over him But she just cant make that big step to actually do it.